They Don’t Understand and It’s Your Fault
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4.6 • 630 Ratings
🗓️ 4 November 2021
⏱️ 4 minutes
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Ryan explains why it’s your responsibility to break things down for your kids, on today’s Daily Dad podcast.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Daily Dad podcast, where we provide one lesson every single day to help you with your most important job, being a parent. |
| 0:14.7 | I'm Ryan Holiday, and I draw these lessons from ancient philosophy, modern psychology, practical wisdom, and insights from |
| 0:23.4 | parents just like you all over the world. Thank you for listening, and we hope this helps. |
| 0:34.2 | They don't understand, and it's your fault. |
| 0:42.3 | There's a funny little anecdote in Josh Ireland's book, Churchill and son, about Churchill's grandson, born to his first and only son Randolph. |
| 0:45.8 | Born in 1940, the younger Winston had spent much of his early life with his grandfather and |
| 0:50.5 | namesake not just in power, but at the center of the universe. |
| 0:55.9 | He had come to take this as a fact of existence. The sky was blue, the grass was green, and the world revolved around Grandpa |
| 1:03.3 | Winston. So you can imagine it was bewildering for the boy when the elder Winston was suddenly and |
| 1:08.5 | unexpectedly tossed out of power in the election of 1945. |
| 1:13.0 | Innocently, he asked his parents what this meant. Was Clement Attlee Churchill's successor, |
| 1:18.4 | his new grandfather? The point is, kids don't understand upheaval. They struggle conceptualizing |
| 1:25.7 | newness. The world is a bewildering, confusing place, |
| 1:29.2 | whether they're seven, 17, or 77. Do you need proof? Seven percent of adults think that chocolate |
| 1:35.7 | milk comes from brown cows. It shouldn't surprise us that kids come up with confusing, |
| 1:41.4 | even terrifying explanations of the world as a coping mechanism for |
| 1:46.0 | uncertainty. And in fact, it cannot surprise us. We have to anticipate and over-explain. We can't let our |
| 1:53.4 | children assume what the divorce means, what the events on the news might mean, what our new job will |
| 1:58.1 | entail. We have to take the time to paint the fullest picture possible. |
| 2:02.5 | We have to answer their questions. We have to make them ask questions because they don't understand. |
| 2:08.3 | And it's our most important job as parents in moments of instability and uncertainty to solve that problem to help them understand. |
| 2:24.1 | This podcast is sponsored by Better Help. As a parent, it's important that you take care of yourself. How can you be there for your kids if you're not being there |
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