Welcome to the Daily Dad podcast where we provide one lesson every single day to help you with your most important job, being a parent.

I'm Ryan Holiday, and I draw these lessons from ancient philosophy, modern psychology, practical wisdom, and insights

from parents just like you all over the world. Thank you for listening, and we hope this helps.

They are doing their job. When they are throwing a tantrum, when they're sneaking out of the house, when they're making an enormous mess, when they're changing their major for the 14th time, when they lie, when they struggle to find their career, when they do any of the things that make you worried, make you concerned, make you pull your hair out, you have to understand.

It's all normal, and it's all part of it.

We've been talking about Dr. Becky's wonderful normal, and it's all part of it. We've been talking about Dr.

Becky's wonderful book Good Inside recently, and it is, it's a must read. And she has this great little section where she's talking about a parent who ends up having to pick up and physically

remove their child from a situation where they're hitting their younger sibling. There's guilt

and frustration and fear and so much

that comes up in these situations. What do we do? Dr. Becky says we should tell ourselves,

I am doing my job of keeping my child safe. My child is doing their job of expressing feelings.

We are both doing what we need to do. I can handle this. When we zoom out, we can see that our kids are being what they're supposed to be. Kids, they're struggling, they're testing boundaries, they're getting overwhelmed, they're being stupid. That's their job. Our job? Part of it is all these feelings we're getting from it, the concern, the doubt, the worry, but our job is also calmly dealing with all of this as best we can, trying to

hold firm with our love and affection, trying to keep them safe. We can handle this. We can let

them do their job while we do ours. We can't get through this. You might remember I've got a whole chapter about sleep and sleep discipline in

Discipline is Destiny.

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