Welcome to the Daily Dad podcast, where we provide one lesson every single day to help you with your most important job, being a parent.

I'm Ryan Holiday, and I draw these lessons from ancient philosophy, modern psychology, practical wisdom, and

insights from parents just like you all over the world. Thank you for listening, and we hope this

helps. These things don't matter. However much they seem to be prioritized by other parents, by certain cultures, perhaps by your own parents or your own instincts in the end, it doesn't matter.

It doesn't matter what color they dye their hair.

It doesn't matter how clean their room is.

It doesn't matter if they're gay or straight or anything on any spectrum.

It doesn't matter where they go to college.

It doesn't matter what field they enter. It doesn't matter where they go to college. It doesn't matter what field they

enter. It doesn't matter how dark or strange or profane the music they like is. It doesn't matter

whether they abandon the piano. What matters is whatever they choose, however they live, however

they make their living, that they do these things well, that they do them with kindness and honesty

and confidence, that they find a way to be happy and fulfilled.

What will matter to you in the end, as we have said here so many times before, is that they

are in their lives, is that you are in their lives and they are in yours, and not in some

sort of negotiated truths, some pleasant on the surface,

but otherwise tense and resented tolerance either. Does this mean you let everything go,

that you never express an opinion about anything or lay down a rule ever? No, but it is important

that you remember what matters most, that you don't lose the forest for the trees,

that you don't lose your credibility and your connection with them in pointless arguments

over things that don't matter, missing how well they are doing in the things that do matter

in the process, losing who matters in the process.

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