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🗓️ 4 April 2020

⏱️ 40 minutes

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For more relationship episodes, subscribe to Women of Impact today: https://apple.co/3bNqdv2 Normally, people are twice as happy and find their lives much more meaningful when they are with their spouse. However, current quarantines may be causing stress for some couples. The sheer amount of time spent together is uncharted territory for many relationships. On this episode of Women of Impact, host Lisa Bilyeu and her husband Tom Bilyeu discuss the tactics, strategies and rules of engagement they have used to keep their relationship strong and growing for 19 years and counting. They discuss how to avoid letting the small things frustrate you, how to lift each other up, and how to hopefully find a way to make this surprise quarantine fun and empowering. SHOW NOTES: How do you avoid getting annoyed with each other over small things? [3:39] How to view everything that happens as practice, and then make it fun [5:50] Don’t tell me I’ve done something wrong after I’ve done it [9:06] Why you have to take responsibility for yourself instead of matching negative energy [10:23] It’s OK to match your partner’s righteous indignation, but not their anxiety [12:42] Do not tell someone they are being irrational. Wait for emotional sobriety [16:31] How do you make space for yourself in a situation that seems impossible? [17:37] How do you deal with a partner who isn’t willing to do the work in a relationship? [21:26] Lisa talks about writing her “quarantine script” in real time [23:38] What would need to be true for this experience to be positive? [25:08] Why you shouldn’t let “dust settle” [27:06] You have to know exactly why things are bothering you [28:38] How to talk to someone who is agitated without getting them even more angry [31:55] What is one thing couples can do right now to get stronger? [34:35] Why you absolutely must take selfish time [37:13] Tom and Lisa used to do relationship theory, which you can still find on YouTube [39:21] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW TOM: WEBSITE: impacttheory.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/33XrFYV FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2xDM4Xa TWITTER: https://bit.ly/39slhdy

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0:00.0	Hey guys, we have a bonus episode for you today from the incredible podcast, Women of Impact.
0:06.4	I recently sat down with the extraordinary host of the show, who happens to be my wife, Lisa Biliu,
0:12.1	to talk about how we're approaching the coronavirus quarantine as a couple.
0:16.7	So in this episode, you'll learn how to use this extra time together to strengthen your relationship
0:22.2	and create meaningful memories. We have more relationship episodes coming,
0:26.3	so if you guys like this bad boy, make sure to subscribe to Women of Impact,
0:30.8	wherever you listen to podcasts. And without further ado, I bring you Women of Impact,
0:36.6	Relationship Edition. On average, couple spend approximately four hours a day with their other half.
0:43.2	But now with us all being quarantined due to the coronavirus, we are now around our partners
0:48.0	six times more than what we're used to. A different way I think can of it is that that's 20 hours more
0:54.2	a day. 140 hours more a week, 560 hours more a month, which is basically an extra 280 days a year.
1:05.6	Now according to studies, when somebody is with their spouse, they're twice as happy as they are
1:10.1	than when they're without them. They also rate their activities as more meaningful.
1:15.6	But I'm guessing this has an abstract touch and was not conducted during the worst pandemic we've
1:20.5	seen in our lifetime. Being confined with your partner was not something we all signed up for.
1:26.3	But here we are. All finding ourselves in this unfortunate situation. And so now you have a choice.
1:32.7	We all do. Do we just try and suck it up and hope love gets us through? Hope that it doesn't tear us
1:38.8	apart or do we recognise this is unknown territory? And that if we navigate it together, then we can
1:45.4	actually come out the other end even stronger because of it. And so today guys, I wanted to do a
1:51.6	different kind of show. I wanted to do a relationship special with my one and only Mr Tom Vibhiew.
1:58.4	We have been together for 19 years and have worked together for over 10 of those years. And so we
2:04.0	have had many many many a day when we have been with each other day in and day out. We have budded
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