Welcome to the Daily Dad podcast, where we provide one lesson every single day to help you with your most important job, being a parent.

I'm Ryan Holiday, and I draw these lessons from ancient philosophy, modern psychology, practical wisdom,

and insights from parents just like you all over the world.

Thank you for listening, and we hope this helps.

There's no time for this anymore.

Parenting doesn't have to change a person. As we said recently,

plenty of people remain the same selfish, immature, irresponsible people that they were before

they had kids, which is why it's worth making the distinction between having kids being a parent.

There are lots more of the former in this world than the latter. People who just

have kids are still living the lives they had before. Parents live a different life. They

become different people with different priorities, different capacities, different standards for

themselves. We talked recently about Tom Segura's great Netflix specials. He's a comedian.

And he makes a great point about how becoming a parent should change you.

One thing that changed for him, he said, is that he no longer had time for arguments with

people.

If he expresses an opinion at a party, he jokes and someone says, I disagree.

He immediately changes his mind and agrees with them. He says he had no time, no energy, no motivation for pointless conflict.

Even the stupid things his own parents say.

And this is a great insight because now you have little people to take care of.

Because now that you have little people to take care of, do you really have any reason to get in

arguments on social media? Why do you care

what other people wear, let alone need them to know what you think of this or that? Why bother?

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