The way we tell others to go away may make them stay

The Overwhelmed Brain

Paul Colaianni

Therapy, Emotions, Sad, Health, Mental Health, Personal, Abuse, Anxiety, Relationships, Health & Fitness, Psychological, Self-improvement, Mind, Stress, Emotional, Anger, Philosophy, Divorce, Psychology, Addiction, Happiness, Happy, Development, Thinking, Success, Education, Frustration, Sadness, Manipulation, Resistance, Brain, Depression, Overwhelm, Mental

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🗓️ 13 July 2025

⏱️ 44 minutes

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Summary

If you’ve ever wondered how to keep toxic people out of your life or if you’re questioning the role of personal boundaries in shaping your reality, this episode is for you. I share insights on why the words you choose matter, how to express your boundaries clearly, and why some relationships require you to be as steadfast as a lighthouse in a storm.

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0:00.0	These are my personal opinions.
0:01.7	Always seek a professional when you're making choices about your mental health and well-being.
0:14.0	So how do you keep toxic people out of your life?
0:17.2	That was a question that showed up in the Facebook group, the Overwhelmed Brain Empowerment
0:22.8	Group.
0:23.4	You're welcome to join.
0:24.4	Check it out.
0:25.8	The question about keeping toxic people out of your life, I gave an answer that I think
0:31.4	it was okay.
0:32.6	I think it was all right.
0:34.3	And I'm happy to talk about that now.
0:37.2	I think that's a great subject to bring up.
0:40.3	One of the reflections I had on it, this isn't actually the answer I gave in the group, but one of the reflections I had on it was the words we use are very important.
0:52.5	The words that we share or express to someone else are
0:59.0	of the utmost importance, especially with a toxic person or manipulative person. Because manipulators,
1:10.4	I'll just call them that, manipulators know how to take your words
1:17.9	and turn them into what they want to hear or turn them into what outcome they want to get.
1:27.8	So if the manipulative person wants to go to the movies tonight and they want you to come with
1:33.3	them, when you say, I probably won't want to go, they can say, well, let's go.
1:39.6	Let's go anyway.
1:41.5	And you can, you know, surely say no, of course. Now you are expressing a boundary or just
1:48.2	a desire. I don't want to go. That's my desire. Or you could say, I don't really want to go. I don't
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