Good morning, gorgeous. How are you doing today? I hope you having a wonderful day, a fantastic week, and a blessed month.

Welcome to the Dr. Daff Show. I'm your host, Dr. Michelle Daff, and I'm so happy to have you here with me today.

We're going to talk about something that could feel a little triggering if you're at this point in your life, but I think it's really

important that we tap into these conversations, especially during this time of the year. In the fall,

people tend to kind of go back inwards, not just inside because of the cool weather, but

in words in the heart, in words in the soul,

in words into themselves and where they are in life and wanting and seeking companionship

and partnership and love and friendship and family.

This time of the year starts to bring that out. And I thought it was

appropriate for us to talk about what is it? What is it really that's keeping you away from

the relationship that you really want? It is an ongoing conversation because it's an ongoing issue. There may be some of you

ladies who maybe are looking at your life and it's been years. Year after year after year,

every year you say, okay, this is going to be the year, this is going to be the year. And every

year it's not the year.

It's not all in your hands.

And as a woman, it's something I always tell ladies, and I also tell older women like aunties and grandmas and people who are putting pressure on their daughters and nieces, that it's not on you. It's only on you to a certain degree, but a man has to choose you, essentially. That's just the bread and butter of it. A man

does have to decide. However, when I have individual conversations with women who have been single for a long time,

what I find is that there are fundamental issues that they are refusing to address.

There are things that they are just choosing to say, I'm not going to do this.

And I believe that if you really want something, whatever it is,

you're going to put all of your effort into it. And then you're going to leave it up to God.

So today I want to talk about the unmarried rut, specifically for you, if you're struggling

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