The Unexpected Link Between Trauma & Your Messy Home

I Have ADHD Podcast

Kristen Carder

Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Education, Mental Health

4.8 • 2.8K Ratings

🗓️ 24 October 2023

⏱️ 58 minutes

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Summary

When I discovered Stacy Scott while scrolling through Instagram, I immediately knew I had to get her on the podcast. Stacy is an internationally known decluttering expert, feng shui practitioner, and occupational therapist with three wildly successful decluttering workshops. Unlike a lot of other organization and decluttering coaches, Stacy focuses on recognizing how trauma impacts your ability to clean so you can make your space your own.

As someone who grew up in an energetically chaotic environment, it took me years to realize the way this affected my interaction with my own space. It was really difficult for me to learn how to keep a home that felt good to me (read: not a perfectly organized home) — I felt like I was failing my family. A huge part of getting past this was unpacking my own trauma story and healing.

Unfortunately, this is something I hear from my clients all the time. “I don’t understand why they can keep a clean house and I can’t.” It feels like failure, but I promise you, it’s not.

In this podcast episode, Stacy talks about how her own trauma held her back. After spending years in denial, she decided to do the work herself. Through the process, she discovered that her past trauma would pop up in her mind as she thought about her possessions. Once she became aware of her triggers, she used her own methods to move through them.

For Stacy, the modality of inner child healing helps her clients identify what might be coming up for them through this work. They’ll often discover that their possessions represent past trauma in their lives, and, really, “It’s not really about the stuff. It’s about what the stuff means to you.”

For those of you with ADHD, trauma-informed decluttering can feel overwhelming. Know that you don’t have to clean up everything at once. Take it one step at a time. Throw away one possession at a time. It’s not too late to take back your space and your life.

To learn more about working with Stacy, you can find her on:

If you’re doing the work to declutter your home and find you need some support to do your best work as someone with ADHD, I encourage you to check out my group coaching program FOCUSED. Inside this program, you’ll be able to get ADHD-specific coaching alongside an amazing and encouraging community.

Come hang out with me on Instagram HERE!

Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to the I have ADHD podcast where it's all about education, encouragement and
0:11.2	coaching for adults with ADHD.
0:13.5	I'm your host Kristen Carter and I have ADHD.
0:17.5	Let's chat about the frustrations, humor, and challenges
0:21.1	of adulting, relationships, working, and achieving with this neurodevelopmental disorder.
0:27.0	I'll help you understand your unique brain, unlock your potential, and move from point A to point B.
0:34.0	Hey what's up, this is Kristen Carter and you are listening to the I have ADHD podcast. I am medicated. I am regulated and I am ready to roll.
0:49.3	Welcome to the show. So glad you are here. so glad that you pressed play on this
0:55.2	podcast you won't be disappointed I promise you I've got a treat for you today for any of
1:01.8	you who struggle to declutter and organize and clean your home.
1:07.8	This episode is for you.
1:11.4	On the podcast today I have Stacy Scott who is an internationally known decluttering expert and a
1:17.6	Feng Shui practitioner and she also happens to be a doctor of occupational therapy. She is going to be talking to us today
1:25.0	about how important it is to recognize how trauma impacts our ability to clean and declutter and make our spaces our own.
1:36.0	She's worked with thousands of clients on healing trauma through the home,
1:40.0	freeing women from the results of traumatic experiences so that they can declutter effortlessly,
1:45.5	succeed easily, and live by their own rules.
1:49.9	I just cannot recommend her work enough. I have been following her on
1:57.6	Instagram at Sanctuary with Stacy for quite some time and just really seeing how in my own story growing up in an
2:07.5	energetically chaotic environment really impacted the way that I began to interact with my own space, you know, when I moved out and I had my own place.
2:21.0	I... place. I cannot explain to you how difficult it was for me to learn how to keep a home that felt good to me.
2:36.0	Not a perfectly kept home, not a perfectionistic home,
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