Today's Good Life Project Rift is called the Tourney of Always.

So how often have you found yourself bundling a negative expectation with the word always?

If you're like most people, me included hits probably far more often than you notice.

I'm actually just back from a quick trip that took me from New York City to San Francisco

to Portland and then back to New York.

And as I was getting on that first plane, I actually caught myself thinking, I always

get headaches when I fly.

But this time, I stopped myself because that's not entirely true.

And then I kind of rebutted and refrained the statement.

The truth is, while I often do get headaches when I fly, I don't always get headaches

when I fly.

And to the extent that I do, it's likely far more under my control than I consider.

It's usually because I haven't slept well the night before or I allow myself to get

hungry and dehydrate on a plane.

And then I spend a solid chunk of the flight creamed over in this horrible posture staring

at a computer screen with the muscles of the back of my neck and my head and my eyes

straining.

So this time, I literally consciously changed the sentence.

And I said to myself, you know what, just stop that.

I don't always get headaches when I fly.

And to the extent that I do, a good percentage of those are likely self-inflicted.

Then when I got on the plane, I spent less time on my computer.

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