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I was rereading some excerpts from Bill Walsh's great leadership book titled The Score Takes Care of Itself.

For those who might be unfamiliar,

Bill Walsh is one of the greatest coaches in NFL history. He took over the San Francisco 49ers when they were the worst team in NFL with a 2-14 record, and in two years turned them

into the best team in the NFL, winning the Super Bowl. He went on to turn the 49ers into

a dynasty, winning six division titles, three

NFC, championship titles, and three Super Bowls. Coach Wals, not only built a winning team,

he also developed eight future head coaches, who then produced another 35 future NFL

head coaches. He was a leader of leaders. The excerpt that stuck out to me this read through, though, is why Bill

decided to leave his leadership position at the height of his career. It is actually a tragic

lesson to learn. It is when Bill stopped abiding by the title of his book. Instead, Bill started

to define himself and his self-worth on winning.

Losing, he said, can become so psychologically crippling that winning offers little solace and no cause for celebration because you've imposed an internal accounting system on yourself

that awards zero points for winning and minus points for losing.

In that calculation, you can never get ahead on points. That's exactly what happened to me, he said. He goes on to say, when this happens,

any kind of loss, mistake, or setback becomes very disturbing, even devastating, because you're

attached your self-image to the results of the

competition. Winning can become insidious for the same reason. That is, you allow the victory

to begin to determine your self-worth and how you feel about yourself. Either way, you are

putting yourself on a very slippery slope when you start believing

that the outcome of your effort represents or embodies who you really are as a person,

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