Welcome back to the Personality Hacker Podcast. My name is Joe Mark Witt.

And I'm Antonio Dodge. I want you to imagine right now that person or persons in your life that absolutely provoke

you and trigger you. They make you feel like you just can't even. You get

angry, frustrated, anxious, stressed, maybe you even feel some hate or

like such strong dislike it looks like hate in your heart for these people or this person. We probably all have this in our life and if you

really reflect on it, just think about and feel right now how maddening it is to imagine that person,

maybe in the same room with you, or having to go to work with them,

or whatever it is. This is a maddening person, a persons in your life, and you just, you can't even at this point. I want you to get in that framework and just really feel what that feels like.

My suspicion is it doesn't feel good.

You hate feeling this way.

You don't like it.

In fact, I think all of us as humans go, if only

this person would either be removed from my life or change in the way I need them to

change, I don't have to feel this way anymore. I can finally feel good. I don't have to feel so bad and feel so awful all the time.

And so your hope and your desire, our hope and our desires as humans, I feel this too, is let's try to change this outer world, these outer people, so I can finally feel good. Today we're going to continue our series where we review the book The Tools by Phil Stuts and Barry Michaels.

This week we want to introduce you to another tool they talk about in the book

and walk through that tool and how it helps address some of the challenging people or

peoples in your life.

This second tool is called active love and it is a technique to get yourself out of what the book refers to as a

mental maze. So as Joel mentioned you call upon this image of a person or maybe even persons or it could be a demographic of people that just they get inside your mind and you can't get them out.

Whenever you think about them,

all you can think about is bad things.

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