The relationship itself is an identity.

There's me and there's you.

And then there's the relationship.

I think coupled them is sometimes way, way, way tougher than parenting.

Parenting, your kid kind of has to do what you say.

With your partner, you've got somebody who's like got a whole life story agency, a bunch of stuff that's happened to them in the past.

And so how are you supposed to live side by side with

this person who's got as complicated of a story running as you do, right, but with a lot of

different conclusions that they've come to and reached.

I welcome back to the Personality Hacker podcast. My name is Joel Mark Witt. I'm Antonio Dodge. You had a subject you wanted to bring to this particular podcast, but I'm going to co-opt it. You are? Yeah. After we hit record. You were going to say a thing, but I don't know what you're, I don't remember you were going to bring a question, like one of those mismatching questions that you like so much.

We had already talked about this.

Yeah.

Okay.

So where are we heading then?

I'll set my T-down and lean in.

It's actually not very complicated. I was just going to say happy anniversary. Oh, happy anniversary to you too. Yeah. Yeah. This is the, this week for those of you who don't know, this week at the time of this recording is in just a couple days here

will be the 13th anniversary of our wedding and the 15th anniversary of the day we met

that's right because we got married on the day we met correct not we didn't get married

the same day we got it we met we got married on the date of the day we met. Two years to the day of the day we met. October 15th. Correct. Yeah. And it also happens to be right between both of our birthdays. We're the same age right now. We are. For about two weeks, Joel and I are the same age. You deceive me. That's right. So we met, the day we met is exactly one week after Joel's birthday.

And it's exactly one week before my birthday.

And so I'm 11 months and two weeks older than Joel.

And so on exactly the midpoint, that was the day we happened to meet. And so that was right, like that we were the exact same age. Well, exact same age. We were the same age. In the math of our lives, we were the same age. And then, and you had just turned what was, we met when, what, you just turned 32.

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