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From The New York Times and WBUR Boston, this is Modern Love.

Stories of Love, Loss and Redemption.

I'm your host, Megna Chacrabardi.

Andrew Randalls has been nominated for two Tony Awards.

He starred as Elijah on HBO's Girls and you can see him now in Black Monday on Showtime.

But in the early 2000s, before any of that happened, he was just like a lot of 20-somethings,

trying to make his career happen and dreaming about his perfect boyfriend.

Here's Andrew, reading his own essay, The Tallest Man I Ever Loved.

My therapist believed that if you wanted to manifest something in your life,

you needed to focus your energy on that thing.

I decided to apply this to my search for love, so I made a list.

Only a 22-year-old could make.

I wanted the man of my dreams to be one taller than me.

I'm 6'2", so it's a big ask.

Two, dark-haired.

Three, fit, kind and funny.

But not too funny, because that was my job.

Four, social, but not too social.

I didn't want to compete for attention.

Five, creative.

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