The Talk Every Couple Needs to Have

Sex With Emily

Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.3 • 6.8K Ratings

🗓️ 17 March 2026

⏱️ 36 minutes

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Summary

If you've ever felt completely lost when it comes to dating, desire, or keeping the spark alive in a long-term relationship, you're not doing it wrong — you're just missing the conversation. Whether it's an office crush you can't read, a sexual awakening at 48 that's putting your 20-year relationship in crisis, or a partner whose needs feel totally out of sync with yours, the answer almost always comes back to the same thing: talking about it. In this episode, I'm taking live calls and listener questions on some of the messiest, most real situations in sex and relationships — and giving you the clarity to actually move forward. In this episode, you'll learn: • How to stop overthinking and finally make a move — whether it's an office crush, a first date, or reconnecting with someone from your past • What to do when your long-term partner's needs and yours no longer match up, including mismatched sex drives, resentment around morning sex, and the conversation most couples are too scared to have • How to talk to your kids about sex and bodies starting at age four — without shame, without awkwardness, and in a way that actually sticks More Dr. Emily: • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Introduction 0:55 - How to Tell If Someone's Into You 6:01 - Avoiding the Friend Zone on a First Date 9:38 - When You're Surprised by Your Partner's Body During Sex 16:20 - Should You Act on Your Partner's Fantasy? 18:55 - Resentment Around Morning Sex & Low Libido 22:35 - Sexually Frustrated in a Long-Term Relationship 26:47 - How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex Without Shame Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	We all need to have these conversations with our partners. We don't have to fix our sex life by
0:09.1	yourself. Your inner relationship for a reason it is partnered sex. So please have this conversation
0:14.6	with him sooner than later, Tessa, so you can start figuring out how to get your own needs met.
0:19.7	You're listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr.
0:22.4	Emily and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation around sex.
0:29.4	Listen, before we're experts at anything, we're all humble beginners. And whether we're learning
0:34.7	how to date, learning how to talk about sex, learning how to pleasure a partner,
0:39.0	it can all seem pretty intimidating, enough to make a second guess ourselves. Like, do they just
0:44.1	like me as a friend? Am I weird for wanting more lovers? Will I teach my child the right things about
0:49.8	sex? Well, on today's Ask Emily show, everyone's looking for clarity in the sexual unknown,
0:55.2	starting with, how can I tell if they're into me? Whether it's an office crush and you're trying to figure out if they like you back, or you're back to go on a date and worried you'll be friend-zoned. Well, I give you tips to put your best foot forward. Well, how about if it's a new sexual act and you don't know how you feel about it or if you should even try it.
1:12.6	I offer ways to figure out what foot forward. Well, how about if it's a new sexual act and you don't know how you feel about it,
1:11.3	or if you should even try it? I offer ways to figure out what you want and not just what your
1:17.2	lover wants. Finally, sexual evolutions in long-term relationships. What to do when you're
1:24.5	filled with old resentments? Is there a new conversation you could
1:27.9	have with your partner? How about when you want to open it up? But your nesting partner is
1:33.0	scared of you having new lovers. Well, we're venturing into uncharted sex territory today,
1:38.3	but don't worry. We all come out on the other side with fresh ways forward.
1:43.3	Please rate and review sex with Emily wherever you listen to the show.
1:46.8	It helps get the show out to more people and it just takes a few seconds.
1:50.2	You can do it right now.
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