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Here's your success mentor, Darren Hardy.

The reason nobody respects you has nothing to do with what you say.

It's what you do right after you say it.

And I'm about to show you the exact moment you teach people to ignore you. Most people think respect is earned. It's not. Respect is

lost and you're losing it every single day in ways you don't even see. Here's what I mean.

I spent 35 years in billion-dollar boardrooms, and I've watched the same

pattern destroy brilliant people over and over again. They say something smart. Nobody reacts.

Then somebody else repeats the exact same idea, and suddenly it's genius. And they think,

I have a credibility problem. I need to speak up more. I need better ideas. Wrong. You don't have a credibility problem. You have a credibility problem. I need to speak up more. I need better ideas. Raw.

You don't have a credibility problem.

You have a desperation problem.

Because every time you say something and then explain it or defend it or try to make people understand why it matters, you're teaching them.

You don't believe it yourself. So once I started teaching leaders to stop doing this, I want the execs who got talked over

in every meeting, start commanding rooms by just showing up. They stopped chasing respect,

and the second they stopped chasing, everybody gave it to them. So here's the system,

three rules that will feel wrong, but they work every single time. Rule number one, say it once. This is the

hardest rule for people to follow, because when you say something and nobody reacts, your instinct

is to keep talking, to feel the silence, to explain what you meant, to make sure that they got it.

But here's what actually happens. The more you talk after your point,

the weaker your point becomes. Because repetition signals doubt and people don't respect

doubt. Here's what to do instead. Make your point. Stop talking. Let the silence sit. If nobody

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