The Shidduch System Exposed: What’s Working, What’s Not, and What’s Next?
Inspiration for the Nation with Yaakov Langer
Living Lchaim
4.9 • 992 Ratings
🗓️ 8 February 2025
⏱️ 127 minutes
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Summary
In this powerful roundtable discussion with top shadchanim from the Yeshivish, Flatbush, and YU worlds—Lisa Elefant, R' Tzadok Katz, and Rebbetzin Dr. Efrat Sobolofsky—along with data expert R' Moshe Pogrow, who offers a macro perspective on the system. We’ll tackle the shidduch crisis debate, evolving dating styles, dos and don’ts for singles and parents, and the latest initiatives reshaping the process. Whether you're in the parsha or supporting someone who is, this conversation is a must-listen!
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Lisa Elefant: We help singles navigate all-things-shidduchim without using the word crisis.
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| 0:24.9 | And I remember one of my kids when he was dating said to me something very profound. |
| 0:30.3 | I told him we were looking into a girl and I said something like, not for now. I don't think it's |
| 0:36.3 | for now, maybe like later. So he called me back a few hours later after Sater and he said something like, not for now. I don't think it's for now, maybe like later. So he called |
| 0:38.9 | me back a few hours later after Sater and he said to me, I don't know about the not for now. |
| 0:44.1 | If it's good for me in six months from now, why not now? We're learning that like it's not the |
| 0:50.4 | end of the world and in our world, like if a couple goes out 10, 12 times, if there's |
| 0:56.3 | a reason for it. |
| 0:57.3 | Right. |
| 0:58.3 | And they need those extra two, three dates. |
| 1:00.3 | Just give it to them. |
| 1:01.3 | Right. |
| 1:02.3 | Why are we giving them a hard time? |
| 1:02.8 | How do you get real accurate information if everyone's protecting themselves with a circle |
| 1:06.8 | of their best friends, their rabbi, and people that are only going to say good about them. |
| 1:16.8 | When you start doing your initial researching, when you call the references, you don't ask questions. |
| 1:18.5 | Just tell me about the person. |
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