The Self-Control Shift That Changes Everything + A 5 Minute Meditation You Can Start Today

Dhru Purohit Show

Dhru Purohit

Medicine, Health & Fitness, Alternative Health

4.7 • 3.4K Ratings

🗓️ 24 November 2025

⏱️ 32 minutes

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This episode is brought to you by Branch Basics, Momentous, and Cowboy Colostrum. When it comes to self-control, most people think willpower is the key to success. Today’s guest offers powerful insights into brain health and psychology—and shows us that real success comes not from fighting harder, but from building awareness. Today on The Dhru Purohit Show, we’re revisiting one of our most talked-about moments with Dr. Alok Kanojia. Dr. K dives deep into self-control, where it originates in the brain, and how it’s connected to internal conflict. He breaks down the concept of urge surfing and explains why true success comes from being aware of our discomfort rather than resisting it. Dr. K also shares his personal journey with addiction, what inspired him to study self-control, how he learned to tolerate discomfort, and what he believes real happiness looks like. Dr. Alok Kanojia, known online as “Dr. K,” is a Harvard-trained psychiatrist specializing in the intersection of technology and mental health. As the co-founder of Healthy Gamer, a mental health platform designed for the digital generation, Dr. Kanojia has inspired millions with his content while overseeing the mental health coaching of thousands of young people. Widely regarded as the leading expert on video game addiction, he is also recognized as one of the most prominent mental health authorities for the younger generation. In this episode, Dhru and Dr. K dive into: The mindset shift that unlocks real self-control (2:09) Urge surfing: the surprising trick that stops mindless snacking (5:00) The split-second gap between impulse and action (10:01) How to build self-control by getting comfortable being uncomfortable (14:59) What drew Dr. K into the science of addiction and self-mastery (18:39) The meditation habit that changed everything for Dr. K (24:28) The big takeaways that can transform your daily choices (30:16) Also mentioned: Full episode with Dr. Alok Kanojia This episode is brought to you by Branch Basics, Momentous, and Cowboy Colostrum. Right now, Branch Basics is offering 15% off the Premium Starter Kit; just go to branchbasics.com and use the coupon code DHRU. Make 2025 your cleanest, healthiest year yet with Branch Basics! Optimize your energy and mental clarity with the purest form of creatine, made by and used by the best, now available in convenient and tasty lemon lime chews. Head to livemomentous.com and use code DHRU for 35% off your first subscription. Right now, Cowboy Colostrum is offering my listeners 25%. Just go to CowboyColostrum.com/DHRU and use code DHRU to save 25% today. Sign up for Dhru’s Try This Newsletter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hi, everyone, Drew Prode here. You know when it comes to making changes in your life, whether it's health related or working towards any kind of shift in your lifestyle, we tend to mistakenly think that willpower will be the key to our success, which is why I'm really excited to share today's featured moment with you about one of the most misunderstood topics in human behavior, self-control. Now, most of us think that self-control is all about fighting harder, using more restraint, or just sheer brute force to make better choices. But what if
0:26.3	real self-control has nothing to do with fighting and everything to do with awareness?
0:32.4	Today, I'm talking about this exact idea in a segment for my incredible conversation with Dr. Alok Kenosia,
0:39.7	also known as Dr. K. Dr. K is a Harvard-trained psychiatrist, specializing in the intersection
0:44.3	of technology and mental health. He's the founder of Healthy Gamer, a mental health platform
0:48.5	designed for the digital generation. Dr. K has inspired millions with his content, while
0:53.0	overseeing the mental health coaching of thousands of young people.
0:56.1	You know, he's widely regarded as a leading expert on video game addiction.
0:59.8	Probably not something that my audience is dealing with, but just good to know.
1:03.0	He's also recognized as one of the most prominent mental health authorities for the younger generation,
1:07.1	and now also too, for people of all generations.
1:10.4	Dr. Kay explains a neuroscience behind
1:12.4	self-control and how the same part of your brain that helps you resist temptation also monitors
1:17.9	your internal conflict. In today's segment, you'll hear why we lose self-control the moment we
1:23.4	stop paying attention to our inner conflict and how stretching the time between impulse
1:28.2	and action rewires the brain. While you don't need to conquer your cravings, you just need to
1:33.9	watch them. It's a powerful idea. And Dr. Kate will also share our powerful five-minute meditation
1:38.5	practice on the segment that you can use to build awareness and emotional resilience. This is one of those conversations that changes the way that you look at your mind.
1:47.8	It's so simple and yet so many of us are not doing it.
1:51.9	I promise you just listen to it and you'll walk away understanding a little bit more about
1:56.1	awareness and how the power of awareness, not willpower, is the superpower that we're all looking to grow
2:02.1	inside of ourselves.
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