The Seemingly Innocent Things That You Should Never Say to Your Partner (and what to say instead): Episode 129
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman
5.0 • 589 Ratings
🗓️ 9 February 2021
⏱️ 31 minutes
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Summary
"You are being too sensitive, just get over it, that's not what happened."...
Have you caught yourself or your partner saying things like that to each other? While you might say these from a seemingly innocent place, they do NOT lead to your partner feeling good, connected, or even validated.
In this episode you will get:
- 6 phrases to never say to your partner
- The negative impact they can have (especially if said repeatedly over time)
- 5 phrases to say instead, that respect & honor each other
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hello and welcome to the Empowered Couples podcast where here you get modern, non-boring relationship |
| 0:05.6 | advice for you to communicate like pros, fight smarter, and stand the same team no matter the |
| 0:11.0 | challenge that you face. |
| 0:12.4 | I am one of your hosts, Aaron Freeman. |
| 0:14.0 | And I'm Jocelyn Freeman, but you all just know us as the Freeman's. |
| 0:17.3 | And today we are talking about these seemingly innocent things that you should never say to your |
| 0:22.8 | partner. And consequently, what you should say instead? Yeah, what should we say instead? And I think |
| 0:28.9 | that what you said about it being seemingly innocent is going to be really key because when we read |
| 0:34.1 | you the six phrases that you should never say to your partner, you might go, |
| 0:38.5 | oops, I've said that recently. And you're like, well, I didn't intend for it to come off as |
| 0:43.8 | harsh or mean. And so as you listen today, realize that so many of us have said these things. |
| 0:49.8 | And where does this come from primarily? So interestingly, we had our first session with a new couple that we're coaching. |
| 0:56.7 | For some of you who are new to following us, we onboard a few couples per month for private coaching. |
| 1:01.6 | And in this session last week, of course, we always keep names private. |
| 1:05.4 | We heard the couple say it to each other. |
| 1:08.8 | We were doing an exercise with them on communication, |
| 1:11.6 | and then these phrases came out of their mouth, and we interacted with them about it. And so we |
| 1:17.4 | witnessed it, and then we took note of, okay, people say this to each other. They think it's |
| 1:23.7 | kind of harmless and innocent, but it really damages the partner. |
| 1:29.1 | And then also I did Q&A on Instagram, and thank you all for being so engaging on Instagram, |
| 1:34.4 | and several of you had asked questions that are pointing to, like, when my partner says this to me, |
| 1:40.0 | it doesn't feel good, but they think it's okay to say it. |
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