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🗓️ 27 February 2024
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Welcome to a transformative journey with Dr. Aziz, where he delves into the heart of social anxiety and the art of truly not caring what others think. Have you ever found yourself paralyzed by the fear of others' opinions, or trapped in a cycle of overthinking every action and word? If so, this episode is a must-listen for you.
Dr. Aziz starts by challenging the age-old adage, "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me." He asks us to consider something deeper: what if the real problem isn't what others think of us, but what we think of ourselves? What if our own thoughts are the chains holding us back?
Drawing from his rich experience as a psychologist, Dr. Aziz shares an enlightening story about a child growing up in a household fearful of rain, illustrating how we often inherit and internalize irrational fears and beliefs without questioning them. This metaphor serves as a powerful reminder of how our upbringing shapes our fears and anxieties.
But here’s the real twist: Dr. Aziz doesn't just leave us with this realization. He guides us through a process of understanding the root cause of our anxiety – the futile attempt to control what others think of us. This control, he explains, is as impossible as trying to control a fire hose of thoughts.
Are you constantly worrying about fitting in, being the right kind of person, or avoiding judgment? Dr. Aziz exposes these fears as mere constructs of our mind, similar to the irrational fear of rain in his story. He encourages us to question these ingrained beliefs and assumptions, to break free from the need for external validation.
This episode isn't just about understanding these concepts; it's about learning how to apply them to our daily lives. Dr. Aziz offers practical advice and exercises to help you detach from self-critical thoughts, reduce the power they hold over you, and ultimately, care much less about what others think by caring less about your own negative self-judgments.
This episode is not just a discussion; it's an interactive experience. As Dr. Aziz guides you through these insights, he invites you to reflect, question, and start reprogramming the conditioning that drives social anxiety.
Whether you're struggling with speaking up in meetings, feeling anxious in social settings, or constantly seeking approval from others, "The Secret To Caring Less What They Will Think" offers a path to freedom. Dr. Aziz’s words are not just comforting; they're empowering. He offers you the tools to start a journey of self-liberation, to live authentically, and to find peace in being unapologetically you.
Tune in to this episode and embark on a transformational journey towards self-acceptance and genuine confidence. Let go of the fear of judgment and embrace your true self with Dr. Aziz.
"Remember the old saying 'Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me'? What if the true challenge isn't just about others' words, but the power of our own thoughts? Discover how to break free from the chains of social anxiety with Dr. Aziz."
Dr. Aziz, an esteemed author, psychologist, and coach, brings a revolutionary perspective to dealing with social anxiety. His approach isn't just about ignoring the negative words of others, but understanding and mastering our own thoughts.
Dr. Aziz asks us to consider: What's weaker than words? The answer is thoughts. The real fear we face is not what others think of us, but what we think of ourselves. We often give undue validity to our self-critical thoughts and those we imagine others have about us. But what if these thoughts were not the real threat?
Dr. Aziz shares a compelling story about a child growing up in a household where rain is feared as dangerous. This story is a metaphor for how we grow up absorbing and never questioning certain beliefs and fears. Like the child in the story, we often don't question the irrational fears instilled in us, leading to a life restrained by these unfounded beliefs.
Stand-Out Quote: "The problem is not what others will think of us; the problem is the attempt to control what they think."
Dr. Aziz emphasizes the importance of challenging and changing our internal narrative. The key lies in questioning the assumptions we've carried since childhood about what is right, wrong, or dangerous. This mental shift can liberate us from the constraints of social anxiety.
A significant part of social anxiety stems from our attempt to control how others perceive us. Dr. Aziz explains that this is a futile exercise, akin to trying to control a fire hose of random thoughts. We must recognize that our efforts to control others' perceptions are not only impossible but also unnecessary.
Inspirational Message: "Imagine a life where you're not bound by the fear of others' opinions. A life where your self-worth isn't dictated by external validation."
Dr. Aziz concludes with a powerful revelation: to care less about what others think, we must first care less about our own self-critical thoughts. He encourages us to create a healthy distance from these thoughts, allowing us to live more authentically and confidently.
By understanding that our thoughts are just passing, unsubstantial bubbles, we can learn to give them less power over us. This realization opens the door to a life of greater authenticity, confidence, and freedom from the grip of social anxiety.
Dr. Aziz's insights offer not just hope, but a practical pathway to overcome social anxiety and embrace a life of confidence and authenticity. His approach empowers us to rewrite our internal narratives and live boldly, free from the constraints of fear and self-doubt.
Remember, the journey to overcoming social anxiety begins with understanding the power of our own thoughts. Dr. Aziz's expertise illuminates this path, guiding us toward a life of true freedom and self-acceptance.
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0:00.0 | Welcome to Shrink for the Shy Guy. |
0:05.0 | This is the show for you if you are sick and tired of being held back by fear, self-doubt, |
0:10.0 | social anxiety, shyness, anything that's stopping you from you being you. |
0:15.0 | I'm going to share the most powerful tools and resources that I've been discovering over the last 15 years on my |
0:21.9 | journey to eradicate social anxiety and instill confidence, first in myself and then in every |
0:28.5 | single person that I meet on my journey. You're going to learn these tools and how to apply them |
0:33.1 | in your life now so that you can become the most free, powerful, bold, authentic version of you. |
0:48.3 | Hey, welcome to today's episode of the show. Today I have something very exciting to share with you |
0:53.8 | that's going to be so liberating because one of the biggest fears Today I have something very exciting to share with you that's going to be so |
0:55.2 | liberating because one of the biggest fears that we have is what are they going to think of me, |
0:59.7 | right? Isn't that the fear that holds us back? It's it will create social anxiety. I don't want |
1:03.0 | to approach those people. What are they going to think of me? I don't want to put myself out there. |
1:07.0 | It's also one of the biggest fears behind niceness and people pleasing. It's like, oh, if I say this or don't do this, what are they going to think of me? |
1:13.5 | Are they going to think I'm selfish? |
1:14.6 | Are they going to think I'm bad? |
1:17.1 | I don't want to speak of it. |
1:18.0 | Work. |
1:18.4 | What are they going to think of me, right? |
1:19.6 | So it's such a pervasive limiter, restrictor jailer in our lives. |
1:25.2 | That's why I'm so excited to share with you. And I was actually |
1:28.0 | just recently teaching a workshop to my 12-month mastermind program focused on this. It was called |
1:34.8 | How to Care Much, Much Less, what they will think. And what I want to share in this podcast episode |
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