Coming up on marriage today with Jimmy and Karen.

Karen Evans treated me better than I deserved and she's redeemed me a thousand times in our marriage.

She's come after me, she's done the right thing when I was doing the wrong thing many times and I've redeemed her too.

I always like to say there's two sides to every marriage and you definitely have issues

as much as your husband does but what I did is I've asked the Lord to change me. Let me talk about the five main choices that we have when our spouse hurts us.

So there are five basic choices.

So your spouse does something, your spouse says something,

and I know y'all have good marriages. I mean you're here at a marriage conference, you're teachable people.

And so you're here to kind of tune up your marriage. But even in the best marriages, we still say things

from time to time that hurt each other.

We do things that we shouldn't do.

So how are you going to respond?

This is the question.

When your spouse does something that hurts you and you don't like how are you going to respond? Let me give you the first choice

Rightiously responding to our spouse in an honest loving and timely manner

In other words your spouse does something that you don't like,

and you walk up to him righteously and say,

honey, can I talk to you for just a minute?

I love you.

I think you're great.

We're on the same team.

That bothered me when you said that.

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