The Sayings That Sound Nice… But Kinda Suck (And What to Say Instead) (The Edge)
Velvet's Edge with Kelly Henderson
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4.6 • 924 Ratings
🗓️ 25 April 2025
⏱️ 37 minutes
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Summary
You’ve probably said them—or heard them—in tough times: “Everything happens for a reason,” “Time heals all wounds,” “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.” But do these popular sayings actually help us heal… or just shut us down?
In this episode, Kelly and Chip break down some of the most common feel-good phrases we hear in hard moments—and explain why they might be oversimplifying real-life pain, struggle, and growth. From “pull yourself up by your bootstraps” to “if you love what you do, you’ll never work a day in your life,” they dig into where these ideas fall short and how they can unintentionally cause harm.
But don’t worry—it’s not all doom and dismissiveness. They also offer more grounded, compassionate alternatives that make space for both truth and growth. Because sometimes, the best way to move forward is to stop pretending it’s all fine.
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Kelly Henderson // @velvetsedge // velvetsedge.com
Chip Dorsch // @chipdorsch
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| 0:00.0 | Hello, Chip. Hi. You're in a different environment today. |
| 0:07.0 | I am. You got a shoot? Yeah, I'm on location of a shoot. So thankfully, there's a house here that my friend owns and it has Wi-Fi. |
| 0:16.0 | Oh my God. Okay, so I was telling you I had Jill Brown. She's an evolutionary astrologer on the podcast, which I actually asked her what that means. And I do think that the kind of way that she reads an astrological chart does really focus on past lives and also like Chiron, which I'm going to explain to you in a second don't worry um which is |
| 0:39.3 | kairon i know what that is but in a different world what is it it's like when you know when you |
| 0:45.6 | watched m tv and it said the name of the artist and the song title on the album yeah that was called |
| 0:51.3 | the kairon are you serious i had no idea idea. Yeah. I had no idea. It had another |
| 0:56.9 | meaning. Well, anyway, some of the listeners might be thinking the same thing, but it is part of an |
| 1:01.1 | astrology chart. It's about your core winning. And I'll get to that in just a second. But when I |
| 1:04.6 | asked her what evolutionary astrology was, she was explaining basically what I believe is the way |
| 1:10.6 | that I always am trying to work with astrology in general. |
| 1:13.9 | It's like, why is my soul here? |
| 1:15.7 | I believe we all came into this specific lifetime with a path. |
| 1:20.7 | Like we chose the situations that we go through. |
| 1:24.2 | We chose the life that we're living to face certain things to then help |
| 1:30.1 | our soul evolve in certain ways. So maybe you're lacking in a certain area or in the last lifetime. |
| 1:34.9 | You were like this super driven, hardcore worker person. And this lifetime, you're completely |
| 1:40.8 | different because you're trying to learn more about like emotions or relationships |
| 1:44.4 | work life balance so when you go get your chart read and this is why i'm always trying to tell |
| 1:51.6 | people about it it's all there like things start to click it's kind of wild the way that it truly is |
| 1:59.3 | just this map it's like looking back even during certain |
| 2:03.2 | transits, you can look back at what was happening at your life in that certain moment. And it's |
| 2:07.3 | pretty shocking when you start to kind of piece it together. And so that was a lot of what Jill |
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