The rut of waiting for someone else to decide before you can move on

The Overwhelmed Brain

Paul Colaianni: Emotional Abuse and Relationship Expert

Mental Health, Education, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

4.5 • 2K Ratings

🗓️ 15 May 2022

⏱️ 61 minutes

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Summary

If you're waiting for someone to make a decision so that you can figure out which direction to go, you might be waiting a while. Some people are very comfortable in their indecision and don't mind how long they stay in the rut. Sometimes they never decide and that means there's a point where you have to move because they never will. I talk about that and also talk about apologies and forgiveness, which can sometimes go hand in hand with being in a rut.

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0:00.0	Just a quick tip before we start the show, if you feel they need to apologize or something
0:05.2	that you did to someone, I want you to mean it.
0:09.4	And what I mean by that is, an apology that you mean only really needs to be said once.
0:16.9	I am so sorry, I cannot believe I did that to you, I feel awful about it and I wish I
0:22.9	could take it back, I just wanted to let you know that.
0:27.5	And ask for forgiveness because that is an apology with a string attached.
0:32.2	You don't want that, you just want to apologize and mean it.
0:36.2	Now this works in a lot of cases but there are some cases where it doesn't like betrayal,
0:41.3	infidelity, things like that where you may need to apologize for quite a long time and
0:47.8	they may want to hear it over and over again.
0:50.1	But in most cases when you need to apologize for something because you wronged someone
0:54.8	in some way, mean it because if you mean it, you only need to say it once.
1:01.8	You might have to say it again if they bring it up but you don't want to make a habit
1:05.5	of it because then they become desensitized to the apology and the apology loses its
1:12.2	genuineness, its authenticity and you don't want to do that.
1:16.8	Just thought I'd share that just in case it was on your mind.
1:19.8	This presents the toughest challenges, every day you are faced with decisions that test
1:24.7	your ability to express who you really want to be in this world.
1:28.6	We're told to keep saying affirmations and keep thinking positively but what do you
1:33.3	do when that stuff doesn't work?
1:35.9	Welcome to the overwhelmed brain where you'll learn to make decisions that are right for
1:39.9	you so that you can create the life you want now.
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