The Root of the Behavior
Focus on the Family Parenting Podcast
Focus on the Family
4.4 • 1.1K Ratings
🗓️ 12 October 2021
⏱️ 9 minutes
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Summary
You ask your child to do something, but instead of hearing "yes, Mom" or "yes, Dad," you get a negative response. Sound familiar? John and Danny explain why bad behavior is typically rooted in something much deeper that's going on in your child.
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| 0:00.0 | You're going about your day and then you ask your child to do something pretty simple but instead of a sure you hear oh why are you asking me or no or I don't have time or you do it. |
| 0:13.8 | Ooh that can really sting as a parent and I'm just saying I had a friend who told me |
| 0:19.4 | about those kinds of things. I'm John Fuller along with Dr. Danny Werta. He's in charge of our parenting and |
| 0:24.8 | youth department here at Focus on the Family and Jim Daly and I talked to author and parenting |
| 0:30.7 | coach Mike Berry who shared some important lessons he's learned through the ups and downs of being a dad. |
| 0:38.0 | Mike welcome back to focus on the family. |
| 0:41.0 | Yeah, thanks for having me back. I appreciate it. You know, you and your wife Kristen, you've adopted eight kids and one of the things that I've learned and Jean and I have been involved in the foster care effort here at Focus Wait No More, which is a tremendous effort. |
| 0:55.2 | Dr. Sharon Ford heads that up here. But one of the things that I learned, |
| 0:59.2 | especially through the late Dr. Karen Purvis is how much, those of us who have our natural born children, |
| 1:09.4 | how much these models apply to us as well. Foster parenting and adoption and the things |
| 1:15.3 | that you learn through that process or maybe they have greater intensity but |
| 1:20.0 | they're applicable to all parenting skills right? |
| 1:23.0 | Absolutely. I would say what I've learned as an adoptive parent and a parent who has |
| 1:28.9 | discovered a new approach to parenting through what we would call trust-based relational intervention parenting, |
| 1:35.8 | that's Karen Purvis' model. We hear from parents all the time whether they're biological parents, |
| 1:41.6 | foster parents, adoptive parents, who say these concepts revolutionized my parenting. |
| 1:47.0 | Because I learned that this child's behavior is not, it comes from a bigger place a deeper place which is their |
| 1:54.7 | trauma history so just let me ask you observation because a lot of parents come to |
| 1:58.9 | you for coaching your parenting coach which I think is amazing. We need many more of you. |
| 2:04.2 | And focus tries to do that as well |
| 2:06.8 | with all the resources that we have here and counselors. |
| 2:09.0 | But this idea that, you know, it's about behavior that we especially we in the |
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