The Romance Myth with Alain de Botton
Australian True Crime
Bravecasting
4.5 • 1K Ratings
🗓️ 5 April 2022
⏱️ 42 minutes
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Summary
What does romance have to do with true crime? Anyone who's fallen prey to coercive control, stalking, cat-fishing or domestic violence will know that the fantasies we're taught about romance can be very damaging when it comes to resisting overbearing partners and recognising red flags.
British philosopher and author Alain de Botton wrote the seminal book on the topic in 2016. It's called 'The Course of Love' and Meshel interviewed him way back then about the surprisingly inorganic and unrealistic origins of romance.
Surprise! It's yet another convention we've invented ourselves that's impossible to live up to and leads to lots of heartache.
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| 0:00.0 | We're bringing Australian True Crime live to Brisbane, Sydney and Melbourne this July, |
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| 0:40.0 | They pay respect to the Aboriginal elders past, present and those emerging. |
| 0:48.0 | Anyone here happily married? |
| 0:50.0 | It's unbelievable. |
| 0:52.0 | I mean it truly is unbelievable when looked at in the context of world history |
| 0:56.1 | because the notion that we would be not only married but happily married is |
| 1:01.0 | only roughly dates back to around the middle of the 18th century. |
| 1:04.3 | Until then you tolerated your partner for the sake of dynastic concerns and |
| 1:08.4 | children you did not expect to love them. A very new idea was born in the middle of the 18th century that |
| 1:14.7 | historians call romanticism and we are all the heirs of romanticism and the |
| 1:21.4 | way that human beings love is very context and society dependent. |
| 1:26.2 | You know, there's a lovely quote by La Hosh Fucor. |
| 1:28.3 | There are some people who would never have fallen in love if they hadn't heard there was such a thing. |
| 1:33.2 | Slightly too cynical. |
| 1:34.8 | But really what this is alerting us to |
| 1:37.5 | is that the way we love is very dependent on our societies. |
| 1:41.4 | And nowadays, we love romantically. We are all the airs of romanticism. |
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