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The right kind of beauty treatment, July 27th, 2022, dear Darla, whenever we feel stuck

in some place, the temptation is to think that we know and understand all the variables.

We know that we are stuck, and we therefore assume we know why we are stuck.

You notice your birthdays are continuing to go by, and you had assumed, when you were

a little girl, that you would be married by this point, but you aren't, and so what's

the deal?

But when you ask yourself what's the deal, the temptation is to think you necessarily

see the full problem accurately.

You don't have the solution, but you think the nature of the problem is self-evident.

The problem is that they're not enough guys, or the guys are not coming around because

somebody needs to light a fire under them, or you need to change what you're doing with

your hair, and so on.

When I do grant that those things that you see could easily be part of the problem, you

see the basic fact of the problem, and you likely have identified some of the factors

that have created it.

But one of the things you should also want to do is to run a spiritual inventory in your

soul in order to see whether there are any internal and invisible things that are getting

in the way.

Sometimes these internal things are hang-ups that you halfway know about, but don't

like thinking about, and other times you don't know anything whatever about them, or you

do know about them, but reckon them as being among your virtues.

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