There's something deeply rewarding that happens in a parent's heart and head when we ask our child to do something and they just do it.

I mean, it's a wonderful feeling but even more rewarding

is when you see them doing things you didn't ask them to do and it's reflecting a good

character, godly character. I'm John Fuller joined by Dr. Danny Werta who's in charge of our focus on the family parenting team and Danny

Obedience how do I know if my child is obedient because that's what I want or obedient because it's actually some

character in them.

Yeah, I mean you can see it through the non-verbals, right?

The body language, the face the tone is there sarcasm that comes with it is there a

stomping out or is there a you know that breathing heavy that you get when somebody's just doing it because they have to

and then you can see a love from your kids where they are obeying even if they don't want to do it

they're obeying because it's the right thing to do or it makes sense or they're invested in the relationship and they see, yeah, okay, they've asked me to do this.

I don't necessarily feel like doing it but I'm going to do it anyway.

We were recently, our family was recently at on a trip together with some of the other family,

extended family and there were some nieces and nephews, and you could see which ones did not want to necessarily

help with the cleaning at the end and which ones were all in. And what was interesting is to see the

children that didn't want to necessarily help in this other extended family. They

saw the others helping with the good

attitude and it began to shift their attitude towards it so there is a

a cultural home culture thing that can also influence a child's perspective and

attitude when everyone else is really participating in wanting to maintain something then obedience makes sense within that.

But if there's complaining all over the place, even between parents saying,

I've got to wash dishes, or they say,

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