So I get a version of this question all the time, the question of, why is it that women won't stay with a nice guy?

You know, it seems to be that in our culture, in the modern conversation where a lot of women are saying that they want men to be more vulnerable, they want men to be more open. They want men to to sort of take care of

things and be more feminized in a lot of ways. Why is it that so many women won't stay with the

quote-unquote nice guys? Why is it that so many nice guys that are out there end up in divorce, end up in heartbreak,

have the, you know, the woman that they're with run off with some quote unquote asshole?

You know, what is it about the nice guy that women think they want, but ultimately end up rejecting?

That's what we're going to talk about today. So I remember working

with a man years ago as we got into this, as I got into this content and I, you know, worked with

Dr. Robert Glover talking about normal Mr. Nice Guy in this concept that's been around for, for decades.

And this guy had been in a relationship where

it ended after about nine months. You know, he dated this woman. He really like went to extremes to

make her happy, you know, flowers once a week, taking her on these nice dates, treating her better than

any other woman that he'd ever been with. And at this sort of like

eight or nine month mark, she ended up cutting off the relationship. And he could, he kind of felt

it, you know, he kind of knew that it was coming. And he could feel her slowly pulling away. And it was like

the more that he did for her, the more available that he was, the nicer that he was, the more

that he took care of her

in every single way that she had been asking for, right? Because he was sort of following through

with everything that she said that she wanted. He was dumbstruck. You know, he was like,

why did this happen? You know, how come I did everything that she asked for, which in itself should be a red flag, which maybe we'll talk about. He's like, I did everything that she asked for, which in itself should be a red flag,

which maybe we'll talk about. He's like, I did everything that she asked for. And, you know,

I wasn't the asshole guy that she dated. I wasn't a jerk. You know, I was overly reliable. I was

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