The Psychology Of Reality TV Dating With Dr. Kirk Honda - Ep 219
Dear Shandy
Sharleen Joynt & Andy Levine
4.9 • 3.3K Ratings
🗓️ 11 May 2023
⏱️ 75 minutes
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Summary
This Hot Topic episode has been one of THE! MOST! hotly requested conversations to date! Ask and you shall receive, Shandies, because today we are joined by professor and therapist Dr. Kirk Honda, aka @PsychologyInSeattle, famed for his reaction videos and analyses of reality TV relationship dynamics.
Today Dr. Honda has answers to our personal musings about the psychological aspects of falling in love on TV. We also cover the manipulation, the aftermath, the audience, and last but not least, the ethics. Sharleen shares several experiences from her Bachelor days and Dr. Honda helps break them down. Frankly, this conversation is overdue and probably one of the most quintessential "Shandy" conversations to date. Come and listen to why we call this the elusive and final collector's card of Dear Shandy Hot Topic episodes!
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Time Stamps:
0:00 - Welcome To Dr. Kirk Honda!
1:19 - What’s His Favorite & Least Favorite Aspects Of Watching Reality Dating Shows?
4:41 - Does Feeling “Chosen” On These Shows Amplify Romantic Feelings?
8:45 - Can A Desire For Money And/Or Fame Result In Chemical Love?
20:56 - Sensory Deprivation And Behavioral Shaping
27:43 - Contestant Autonomy And Learned Helplessness
32:14 - Can Trauma Expedite A Relationship?
35:07 - If He Had Met His Wife On A Reality Show, Would Their Relationship Have Progressed In The Same Way?
36:46 - The Ethics Of Producing Reality TV
46:04 - What Has He Learned About The Reality TV Audience?
53:58 - Do Reality TV And Social Media Reward Narcissism?
58:48 - His Favorite Shows
1:04:13 - Shandy Debrief
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| 0:00.0 | You know that you're talking to a famous person, a pre-famous, they're gonna be famous. |
| 0:04.9 | They're pre-famous, pre-packaged fame, yeah. |
| 0:07.5 | Love that pre-famous, that's great, we're gonna, we're gonna adopt that. |
| 0:10.6 | Yeah, you don't know the sun's gonna rise, but there's a very good chance it will. |
| 0:19.8 | Welcome back to Dear Shandhi listeners. Hello, Andy. |
| 0:22.9 | Hello. How are you today? |
| 0:24.1 | I'm good, I'm excited. |
| 0:25.0 | I am too. Yes. |
| 0:26.1 | You know who might be even more excited than us, though, even though we are very excited. |
| 0:30.0 | Is our Shandhi's, because let me tell you, when we came out with our first |
| 0:34.2 | love is blind recap, earlier in April, it was our first time ever, watching or recapping |
| 0:40.0 | love is blind. Everyone was like, you must get Dr. Honda, it was not optional. |
| 0:44.8 | It was our most liked YouTube comment of the season. |
| 0:47.8 | Yes, he's both a therapist and professor. |
| 0:50.0 | He has a doctorate in psychology and a master's in marriage and family therapy, |
| 0:54.4 | making him, I think, very qualified as a therapist. |
| 0:58.0 | Yes, but he is known, especially for his therapist reacts, breakdowns of reality TV and high |
| 1:04.0 | profile relationship dynamics on his famed YouTube channel, Psychology in Seattle. |
| 1:10.1 | We are so excited, Dr. Kirk Honda, that you could join us today. |
| 1:13.7 | Hello, Shandhi's. |
| 1:14.8 | So, Dr. Honda, today we're gonna start nice and easy, asking you about the psychoanalysis |
| 1:21.6 | of reality TV. We want to know from you, what is your favorite thing about watching couples |
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