This TED Talk features playwright and activist Eve Ensler, recorded live at TED Women 2019.

For the past few years, we've been calling men out. It had to be done.

But lately, I've been thinking we need to do something even harder.

We need, as my good friend Tony Porter says,

to find a way to call men in.

My father began to sexually abuse me when I was five years old.

He would come into my room in the middle of the night.

He appeared to be in a trance.

The abuse continued until I was 10.

When I tried to resist him, when I was finally able to say no,

he began to beat me. He called me stupid. He said I was a liar.

The sexual abuse ended when I was 10, but actually, it never ended. It changed who I was.

I was filled with anxiety and guilt and shame all the time, and I didn't know why.

I hated my body. I hated myself. I got sick a lot. I couldn't think. I couldn't remember

things. I was drawn to dangerous men and women who I allowed.

Actually, I invited to treat me badly,

because that is what my father taught me love was.

I waited my whole life for my father to apologize to me.

He didn't.

He wouldn't.

And then with the recent scandals of famous men as one after another was exposed,

I realized something.

...