The path of awakening is not about becoming who you are. Rather, it is about unbecoming who you are not.

So in this quick little mini episode, I wanted to talk today about arguably the biggest trap of

personal development and simultaneously the most important aspect that very few people are talking about, in my opinion.

What I've noticed over the past however many years that I've been working with people is that

when we start to do this work, right, whether you are going to therapy or you have a coach

or you're doing online programs or, you know, you're doing mushrooms at home or or you're going to therapy or you have a coach or you're doing online programs or,

you know, you're doing mushrooms at home or you're going down to the Peruvian jungle to do

ayahuasca or whatever it is that you're doing.

One of the things that people often don't talk about is that this journey, so first off,

the trap is that we buy into this Western idea

that our personal growth should be this sort of inexorable expansion, right? Just like the stock

market, just like this economic obsession that we seem to have in our culture with sort of cancerous

growth, right? The only thing that grows continuously without any form of

setbacks is cancer, right? Unless it's infringed on. And yet this is the mentality that we have for

our own development, that it should only move in one direction, that it should only expand ever,

that we should never have

any setbacks. And so we never allow ourselves the grace and the compassion and the resiliency

and the empathy to have setbacks. And that's one of the biggest traps. I would say the arguably

the biggest and most important things that we need to know about our journey, one of the biggest traps. I would say arguably the biggest and most important things that

we need to know about our journey, one of the least talked about aspects, is that personal

development and self-help, whatever modality you are embarking on, is actually not just a process

of developing ourselves, but a process of undeveloping ourselves. That it's a process of unbecoming.

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