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let's get started. Have you ever been asked, how are you? And you replied, fine or ungood, but you weren't.

So many of us have been programmed to automatically say, fine, even when we're not fine.

It just sort of comes out.

We don't even think about it.

I did this just the other day when someone said,

how are you? Fine. How are you doing? Again, it's just become sort of ingrained for us.

But when people say they're fine, but they don't really mean it, it creates some problems.

So there are usually reasons that someone would say they're fine,

but they aren't. And, you know, there are many reasons why people say this. But I want to take some

time and look at some examples. It could be because they're a private person and they don't really want other people

knowing their situation. That's definitely a reason that you might say fine when you're not.

They may even feel like their current situation is too painful or uncomfortable and they're trying to avoid talking

about it. So it's just much easier to say fine. It might be that the person feels like they

can't say they're having problems because other people expect them to be happy and okay and

having no problems. There's just this expectation and then we just keep it up. We just keep up that facade. There could also be a fear that other

people just won't understand if the person's asking us, how are you? And we think, they're not going to get

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