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The Problem With...

The Problem With Being Soft: Ali Maclean

The Problem With...

James Smith

Society & Culture

4.99.5K Ratings

🗓️ 12 May 2026

⏱️ 83 minutes

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👁️ Try Neutonic: https://www.neutonic.com/jamessmith 🧪 Check your Test: https://www.manual.co/smith 📝 Business Mentoring: https://www.jamessmith.business 🏋🏼‍♂️ Online Coaching: https://www.jamessmithacademy.com Ali Maclean's YouTube Channel – https://www.youtube.com/@alimacleans Ali Maclean On Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/alimacleans/ Ali Maclean joins James Smith for a no-holds-barred conversation on combat sports, mental toughness, and why being "soft" is the most dangerous thing a man can be. A career MMA fighter-turned-coach, Ali argues that combat sports are the most underrated self-development tool on the planet — a Trojan horse that forces men to confront their ego, communication, fitness, and their own appetite for controlled violence. He explains: ◼️ Why combat sports are a Trojan horse for self-development ◼️ How fear and excitement live in the same nervous system — and how to use it ◼️ Why "everything you learn at white belt is a lie" about strength in jiu-jitsu ◼️ How injuries quietly build a better grappler than ego ever will ◼️ Why the path of inaction is the only outcome worth fearing Chapters:Chapters: 00:00 Heights, Fear and What's Coming 01:35 The Problem With Being Soft 03:00 The Three Types of Men: Unprepared, Half-Capable, Capable 04:25 Why Walking Away Is Real Self-Defense 06:55 Jeff Cooper's Awareness Levels — White, Yellow, Orange, Red 09:30 Losing the Ego When a Knife Comes Out 11:30 Baseball Bats, Knives and What You Can Actually Do at Home 12:55 We All Secretly Love Violence 14:08 The Rugby Club Bare-Knuckle Champion Story 17:00 Walking Into a Bar When You've Never Been Hit 18:50 Getting Kicked in the Balls at School (and Other Reality Checks) 20:00 Why Violence Isn't Suffering — It's a Teacher 22:00 Decorum in Street Fights vs Nights Out 24:50 Why Jiu-Jitsu Is the Best On-Ramp to MMA 26:50 The Ultimate Fighter Season 15 — Getting Humbled on Live TV 29:30 Words Only Hurt If They're Slightly True 30:30 Why Hate Comments Are a Performance Indicator 33:40 Banter Is Just Practiced Confrontation 34:50 The DOSE Cascade From Combat Sports 36:30 Combat Sports as a Trojan Horse for Self-Development 38:50 The Lockdown Touch Crisis and Loving Brock Lesnar 42:00 What WWE Taught Us About Building an Audience 45:50 Bodybuilding vs Combat Sports Beauty Standards 49:00 Why Injuries Make You a Better Grappler 51:30 James's MCL Tear and a Front Headlock Game 52:40 The Most Underrated Body Part to Train: Your Neck 54:00 The Osteopath Magician and the Expectation Effect 55:50 Strength in Jiu-Jitsu — Everything You Learn at White Belt Is a Lie 57:30 The Guillotine Is About Hope, Not Submission 58:00 Soul-Stealing — How High-Level Strikers Break You 1:01:30 Grip Fighting Decides the Match 1:01:50 Going Out Too Hot — A Cautionary Comp Story 1:03:08 Everyone Backstage Is Scared (Even GSP and Darren Till) 1:05:00 Cus D'Amato: Fear Is a Raging Fire 1:05:50 Flow State and the Day James Caught a Knee Bar 1:08:08 Sauna, Ice Bath and the Daily Battle With Yourself 1:09:30 Stoicism, Discomfort and Seeking Mental Toughness 1:12:00 The £4,000 Missed-Flight Lesson 1:14:50 Ali's Fear of Heights Confession 1:17:00 Fear as the Compass to Where You Should Go 1:18:09 Soft Is the Path of Inaction 1:19:20 Ali's Honest Take on His MMA Career 1:20:30 Ali's Coaching: Strong, Fit, Capable Men 1:21:25 How James's Mentorship Changed Ali's Marketing Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0

I can't handle hikes and I was in Tenerife with my missus for her birthday. These are massive slides and I'm looking at them going, fuck me. I fought in front of millions of people watching around the world. I lost and I would rather get punched in the fucking head than walk up there right now. I get the balls to do it. I go down, fucking screaming. And then I finished the first slide and go, oh fuck, that was actually pretty fun. If there is an obstacle in the way, it's probably a good indicator. That's the right direction to go in. Ali McLean is an Irish M.A fighter, nicknamed Insane, the lightweight from Belfast is best known as the first Irish competitor to appear on the Ultimate Fighter Season 15. Ali McLean, what's the problem with being soft? Physical toughness is a byproduct of mental tough. Being mentally tough comes from pain and we avoid it. We're told there's mental all the time, just talk about your issues. But that's not going to fix fuck-all. It's only going to be fixed. If you take an action, people may or may not like me saying this. We made it this far on the podcast without a technical glitch.

0:55.0

Unfortunately in this episode, Ali's camera didn't work for the first 13 minutes. Either way, the conversation you're about to listen to is one of the favourites we've done so far on the pod. So please enjoy it, and those you're watching, sorry about the visuals. Those you're listening, as you were. It's at this very moment here that I could have got thousands of pounds to sit here and promote a greens powder that doesn't do anything. But instead, I decided to pay for every aspect of this podcast myself and just ask you that if we're in the UK, USA, UAE, to please try and get a can of Newtonic. Australia, we're coming incredibly soon. We're in the manufacturing process. And for any of you that can, please do try our Newtonic creatine sticks. They are the shit. You can head to Newtonic.com to see what's available to you. And I will let you now get back to the episode. Allie McLean, what's the problem with being soft. The problem of being soft is everything you're told about, well, it's in general self-defense, isn't it? Like, that's what people think soft is.

1:46.1

And every course, every YouTube video,

1:48.1

every magazine or every video you watch

1:50.1

on Instagram shows when someone grabs

1:51.9

your wrists or they,

1:54.0

you know, grab their hands on your neck.

1:56.2

But that stage, you've already kind of

1:58.3

lost. You've already

2:00.0

failed and probably the most important part.

2:01.6

In fact, in the UK today there are approximately 1.94 million violence against person

2:09.1

offences recorded by the police in England and Wales in 2024 and 2025. Now if you look back

2:16.6

at 2013 and 2014, there were only 600,000. So that's like a decade.

2:24.5

That's more than one tripled. And so it's not going away. And the problem of that is people

2:30.9

are just blissfully unaware of being situational aware, not being capable

2:36.6

enough. And the big problem of that as well is the fact that a lot of these issues are caused

2:44.6

not by the stranger in the alley thing people have. Like, oh, a stranger in the alley is going to attack

2:49.2

me. It's like most of the time it's why people you fucking know. And that's a big issue with it. So, for instance, would you say there's a couple of things that play here? If I had to put the finger at some things, I'd say social media one. We're watching, you know, street compilations of fights, knockouts, Twitter can show you some of the most savage knockouts.

3:08.3

And where maybe in the 80s and 90s you'd watch films and think that you could be the main character.

3:13.0

Suddenly now you're looking at social media and thinking, if someone started on me and my mates at the pub, I'll just chin all three of them.

3:20.1

That's exactly that.

3:21.7

And so I talk about there being three types of people there's

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