When you deprive the partner of intimacy, either he's going to porn or she's going to toys,

how dare you be shocked that they're going to cheat? What else are they going to do? And I know that sounds terrible and people get annoyed by that. They're like, yeah, but you can just leave, but no, sometimes you have kids, sometimes you have a mortgage, sometimes you love your partners, because I'll have men that watch porn rather than touch their wives. And then when she cheats, they were all upset about it. it and I don't know tell me what your mind was telling you.

Sadia Khan is a relationship coach.

She helps people navigate the complexities of modern She cheats, they were all upset about it. And I'm like, tell me what your mind was telling you. Sadia Khan is a relationship coach.

She helps people navigate the complexities of modern relationships.

In this episode, she and James discuss how to gain sex appeal, dating red flags, and...

What is the problem with people being single?

Dating is the absolute easiest for corrupt men and women and the hardest for good

people. And what I mean by that is corrupt women, for example, women that are happily sleep

and married men, who sell their body online, who will make her an only fan. She gets this life

with zero heartbreak, because she doesn't even care about the guys, gets her travel the world

and gets constantly rewarded for her poor behavior. Whereas a good, loyal woman is usually stuck at home, worrying where he is, worrying what he's up to. Both of them might end up childless and divorced, but one of them's got a G-Wagon and an apartment, and the other one's got debt and sadness. There's no reward for being good anymore. Similarly, with good men, they get overlooked by the men that are actually more dominant, the one that have more options. So unfortunately, the dating for is designed to reward the people that are the least caring.

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and that I should never start a podcast ever again unless I promoted our new Tricant products. So I'm keeping my end of the deal. Chris, I'd be happy. Please head to Newtonic.com. The products are really good. So find out for yourself. Head to Newtonic.com now. Bye-bye. What is the problem with people being single? I would say currently there's probably three main problems with being single and they're probably divide into three categories. The first one is there's a whole illusion of options that everybody

has, whether it's through Instagram, DMs or if it's through dating apps. People assume that

they've got a whole batch of people to choose from way more than they actually do because they just

see alternatives rather than realizing whether the quality of the alternatives even exist. So I'd say the first thing is too many alternatives in their mind. The second thing I would say is the saturation of poor advice that they're getting online. If you're single, you are going to be bombarded. Your algorithm kind of knows your loneliness and will then bombard you with either how to not settle, make sure you get the best kind of man, make sure you don't go 50-50, or if you're a man, it will show you beautiful, beautiful girls and all these sexy women. So you're thinking, why would I ever want to be with one woman? There's so many sexy girls out there. And I would say that the third thing is, so you've got those kind of ideas, advice. And the final thing is the difficulty with being monogamous from now on. I think the days of where you realize that monogamy is actually really healthy for both of you. And if you don't want to be monogamous with that same person, no problem, you can move on. But the problem is that everybody has started practicing the art of polygamy before marriage.

So they've gone on multiple dates with people at the same time.

They've slept with so many people at the same time.

They've kind of dissociated sex with commitment so much that then getting out of the habit of commitment

and then trying to look for commitment

while you don't create the habits beforehand

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