Welcome to episode 281 of Live Happy Now. This is Paula Phelps, and this week we're talking about

honesty. We've all told little white lies, but have you thought about how honest you really are

in your day-to-day life? When Judy Kettler started thinking about it, she realized that maybe she wasn't as honest as she

thought. So the writer delved into the research and her own habits. And the result is her new book,

Would I Lie to You, the amazing power of being honest in a world that lies? Today, Judy's here to

talk about why we lie, how it affects our happiness, and how we can all live our lives with just a little more honesty.

Judy, welcome to Live Happy Now.

I'm so excited to have you because this is a topic that we have never addressed on this show.

Oh, wow.

I know.

I wanted to have you on because I actually found you.

I was reading an article in Scientific American Magazine, and it was incredible.

And then so I had to look you up and I found out about your book.

As I thought about it, I really haven't seen a lot of research on

honesty. We hear a lot about it today, but what made you decide to take on this topic?

Yeah, great question. So I feel like I've always had an interesting relationship with honesty.

And maybe everyone can say this, but they're not

honest enough to admit it. So, you know, like as a kid, I would tell these little fibs, usually

they were related to telling the girls on my gymnastics team that I had a boyfriend when they

were all talking about their boyfriends, right? Or embellishing something. Usually they were to do with ego. I wasn't going around stealing or lying about those kinds of things, but most of the lies I told were really about, I felt uncomfortable in some moment and I would wind up lying to try to fix it. But I always wound up feeling worse. And at the same

time, I would get really frustrated when I knew other people were lying to me or when I could see

hypocrisy. So I grew up Catholic. So I feel like I grew up just in one giant world of hypocrisy. Not so much with my

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