Get a free Cleaning up your Mental Mess workbook when you sign up for my weekly newsletter at drleaf.com Early bird tickets on sale now for my 2021 Mental Health Retreat: https://www.drleafconference.com SHOW DESCRIPTION: In this podcast I speak with Josh Harris, a former pastor and bestselling author who has dramatically shifted his views on purity culture. We discuss everything, from healthier ways to talk about sex and safety and the neuroscience of guilt and shame to the trauma of losing your “tribe” and the incredible power of recognizing your mistakes and changing your mind. Read the show blog here: https://drleaf.com/blogs/news/josh-harris OFFERS FROM OUR SPONSORS: -Amen Clinics: Visit amenclinics.com/drleaf and use the promo code DRLEAF10 to get 10% off your first evaluation. -Athletic Greens: To get one year free supply of vitamin D and 5 free travel packs with your order see: athleticgreens.com/LEAF. -NED: Get 15% off your first order and free shipping visit helloned.com/drleaf or use the code DRLEAF at checkout. -Birch Mattresses: Get $200 off ALL mattresses and 2 free eco-rest pillows at Birchliving.com/drleaf. B PODCAST HIGHLIGHTS: 2:06, 13:15, 28:44 Why Josh Harris shifted his views on purity culture 3:00 Changing your mind and unlearning can be a good thing! 5:16 How Josh found the courage to speak out about his past mistakes and how he manages his regret 6:00 Why failure is a door to other worlds—it is the ultimate learning experience! 6:35 The power of listening to other people’s stories 8:05 Why we need to step outside of our “tribe” 8:42 The dark side of religion 16:50 The pitfalls of always looking for certainty and safety 18:50 Why we should avoid black and white thinking 22:00 The science behind changing your mind 29:00 How to handle to loss of a “tribe” and community 31:30 The messy mind and the wise mind: how do they work together? 36:00, 56:30 Why fear shouldn’t stop us from finding inner freedom 38:02 The power of taking responsibility for your actions 39:45 A healthier way to talk about sex and love with children 48:30 Shame, guilt and purity culture 54:40 How Josh manages his own mental health Get my new book Cleaning up Your Mental Mess here: https://www.cleaningupyourmentalmess.com Download my new and improved brain detox app here: https://neurocycle.app Follow me on social media for daily mental health tips & strategies: -Instagram: @drcarolineleaf: https://www.instagram.com/drcarolineleaf/- -Facebook: Dr. Caroline Leaf: https://www.facebook.com/drleaf -Twitter: @drcarolineleaf: https://twitter.com/DrCarolineLeaf Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.