The Positive Aspects of Negativity - Why Dissatisfaction is Hardwired

The Virtual Couch

Tony Overbay LMFT

Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

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🗓️ 21 July 2022

⏱️ 33 minutes

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With all of the amazing advances in technology, the increased awareness of our mental health, and apps, shows, programs, and therapists at our fingertips, why is it so hard to be happy? Tony discusses the "surprising psychology of why dissatisfaction is hardwired" from the article "Why You're Never Going to Be Satisfied With Life," by Nir Eyal https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/automatic-you/202207/why-you-re-never-going-be-satisfied-life (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/automatic-you/202207/why-you-re-never-going-be-satisfied-life)"http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop (http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop) to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19. You'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com (http://pathbackrecovery.com/) And visit http://tonyoverbay.com (http://tonyoverbay.com/) and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts.Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ (https://descript.com/?lmref=bSWcEQ)

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0:00.0	Hey, oh, oh, come on and take a seat on the virtual couch.
0:22.5	Hey, everybody.
0:24.8	Welcome to episode 330, The Virtual Couch.
0:28.8	And I'm going to start today with a reading from one of my favorite books of all time.
0:32.7	That book is The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris.
0:35.7	So why is it so difficult to be happy?
0:39.5	To answer this question, let's take a journey back in time. The modern human mind with its amazing ability to analyze and plan and create and communicate
0:45.4	has largely evolved over the last 200,000 years or so since our species, Homo sapiens
0:50.0	first appeared on the planet, but our minds did not evolve to make us feel good.
0:55.0	So that we could tell jokes and write poems or say, I love you, our minds evolved to help us
0:59.9	survive in a world fraught with danger. So imagine that you're an early human hunter-gatherer.
1:05.2	What are your essential needs in order to survive and reproduce? There are four of them,
1:09.7	food, water, shelter, and sex.
1:12.7	But none of these things matter if you are dead. So the number one priority of the primitive
1:17.5	human mind was to look out for anything that might harm you and avoid it. The primitive
1:22.8	mind was basically a don't get killed device and it proved enormously useful. The better that our ancestors
1:29.1	became at anticipating and avoiding danger, the longer they lived, and the more children they have.
1:33.4	And you can quite frankly thank them right now for the fact that you are here listening to this
1:37.4	podcast. So with each generation, the human mind became increasingly skilled at predicting and avoiding
1:43.8	danger. And now, after 100,000
1:46.4	years of evolution, the modern mind is constantly on the lookout assessing and judging everything
1:51.9	that we encounter. Is this good or is it bad? Is it safe or is it dangerous? Is it harmful or
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