The People Pleaser
Sober Awkward
Victoria Vanstone
4.8 • 533 Ratings
🗓️ 12 February 2023
⏱️ 70 minutes
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Summary
Did you drink to fit in? Is this because you wanted people to like you? Does it matter?
After a few months of getting sober the true you begins to sneak out from under that big safe layer of booze. You begin to question yourself and seek answers as to why you act in the way you do. It's confronting, and very exciting. Finding authenticity and letting go of being a people pleaser are both part of this process.
In this vulnerable episode of Sober Awkward, Vic reveals some of her more extreme people pleasing ways and why she feels being overly friendly can leave her swimming in a mucky pond of disappointment. Whereas Hamish thinks people pleasing is a form of good manners, a need to be kind to others and fit in to society,
Either way, both Vic and Hame see that some of there intricate personality traits often mean they end up missing out on time with thier families. They are way too reliable, can never say no, or are too busy buying gifts for random strangers.
So today, they are both learning on the go, trying to understand their people pleasery and step in to a world in which they no longer care what anyone thinks about them. Sound awkward? Yes! but with a few awful stories, some chat about socks and a barrel of giggles, anything is possible!
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | The cattle's boiled, Vic. |
| 0:03.0 | Great, perfect timing. Just a dash of milk for me, please, mate. |
| 0:08.0 | Here you go. Should we get started then? |
| 0:16.0 | Have you ever woken up on a Sunday morning and said, I'm never drinking again, |
| 0:21.4 | and then found yourself waving 50 bucks at a barman by happy hour? |
| 0:25.1 | Are you wondering why everyone else can stop at one, |
| 0:27.8 | while you head to a dodgy after-party with a weird bloke called Disco Dave? |
| 0:31.7 | If so, it might be time to take a deeper look at your relationship with your reliable social crutch, alcohol. |
| 0:38.1 | On each episode, we'll investigate our own dysfunctional dealings with booze |
| 0:42.2 | and find out if it's possible to stop this deeply ingrained habit |
| 0:45.4 | before things get too messy. |
| 0:47.5 | Yep, we're going to open up a shame shed of humiliating drinking stories |
| 0:51.1 | to help you understand why waking up from a booze coma each weekend with a |
| 0:54.9 | kebab sticking out of your top pocket might actually be negatively impacting your health. |
| 0:59.9 | Hamish and I are here to delve into what it's like being sober, an unwanted warts and all look |
| 1:05.3 | into why giving up those cheeky pints or putting down those mummy wines will make you feel happier, |
| 1:12.5 | help your anxiety in mental health and turn you into the most sparkly authentic version of you. |
| 1:16.5 | Won't that mean I become boring though, Vic? |
| 1:18.3 | Well, Hamish, we'll just have to wait and see. |
| 1:20.9 | I'm Victoria Vanstone. |
| 1:22.6 | I'm Hamish Adams Cairns. |
| 1:24.1 | And this is Sober Awkward. |
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