The Past, Present, And Future Of Dating
Curiosity Weekly
Warner Bros. Discovery
4.6 • 963 Ratings
🗓️ 12 September 2017
⏱️ 48 minutes
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Summary
The dating world has radically transformed over the last few decades. Combine advances in technology with radical changes in social roles and a rise in non-traditional relationships and sexual preferences, and you end up with a pretty confusing dating environment. Dr. Eli Finkel joins the Curiosity Podcast to discuss everything from one-night stands to Tinder to pickup artists – and everything in-between.
Dr. Finkel is a social psychology professor who studies interpersonal attraction, marriage, conflict resolution, and more. He is the director of Northwestern University's Relationships and Motivation Lab and has published more than 130 scientific articles – primarily on relationships – as well as being a regular contributor to the Op-Ed page of The New York Times.
More from Dr. Eli Finkel:
- Dr. Eli Finkel's website
- Is Romantic Desire Predictable? Machine Learning Applied to Initial Romantic Attraction (Study)
- Can technology bring us true love? Eli Finkel at TEDxNorthwesternU 2014
- "Self and Relationships: Connecting Intrapersonal and Interpersonal Processes"
- "The All-or-Nothing Marriage: How the Best Marriages Work"
Additional resources discussed:
- Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships
- Four Fallacies of Pop Evolutionary Psychology
- How evolutionary psychology gets evolution wrong
- Ashley Madison Hack: All Fun and Puritanical Games Until Somebody Gets Dead
- "More than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory"
- "Polyamory and Jealousy: A More Than Two Essentials Guide"
- "Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships"
- "The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists"
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| 0:00.0 | I'm curious, why is it so important to understand relationships and marriage? |
| 0:04.0 | Well, there are lots of things that influence how happy we are with our lives, how fulfilled we are in our lives. |
| 0:11.0 | Literally, number one, just on average, for most people, the single most significant |
| 0:16.4 | predictor of your overall quality of life is the quality of your primary romantic relationship, |
| 0:21.2 | your marriage, for example. |
| 0:23.0 | And you can imagine a world in which that weren't true. |
| 0:26.2 | You can imagine a world in which really our friendships are really central, but it is not the |
| 0:29.3 | world that we live in. from Curiosity.com. Today we're going to learn what people really want in today's |
| 0:44.5 | dating world. Every week we explore what we don't know because Curiosity makes you |
| 0:48.9 | smarter. This is the Curiosity Podcast. |
| 0:55.0 | You don't need me to tell you that the dating game has changed a lot over the last couple decades and boy has it got |
| 1:01.7 | complicated. |
| 1:03.0 | Whether you're single or not, have we got some insights for you? |
| 1:06.5 | Dr Eli Finkel is a social psychology professor who studies interpersonal attraction, |
| 1:11.7 | marriage, conflict resolution, and more. |
| 1:14.7 | He's the director of Northwestern University's Relationships and Motivation Lab, and this |
| 1:19.2 | week he joins me to discuss everything from the Psychology of attraction to tender to pick up artists. |
| 1:25.5 | This episode is pretty family friendly as usual, but be aware that because we're talking |
| 1:29.8 | about relationships, we will at least touch on some adult themes. |
| 1:34.4 | Don't worry, we'll keep a PG-13. |
| 1:36.8 | You can follow along with an interactive transcript of this episode on Greta.com, that's |
| 1:41.2 | G-R-E-T-T-A. Visit Greta. . . . . G R E T T. A. |
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