This is Dating While Gray, the grown-ups guide to love, sex, and relationships.

I'm Laura Stasi.

Remember that PSA that aired on TV for years with the egg in the frying pan?

This is your brain.

This is drugs.

This is your brain on drugs?

Yeah, I think love is a lot like that too.

This episode, The Older Brain on Love. I met a woman, let's call her Mia, who was willing to talk about her relationship with a man will call Ben.

But not only did Mia not want to use her real name, she didn't want her voice to be heard.

So we're using a voice actor to help share her story.

Mia didn't want anyone to know who she is because she's really embarrassed about her behavior.

She tells me she's normally very rational, emotionally strong.

I don't let feelings get the best of me.

But when it comes to Ben... I don't know feelings get the best of me. But when it comes to Ben...

I don't know. I just lose my mind.

It's like kryptonite to Superman.

Those are Mia's words, not mine.

Mia thought Ben was the one...

From the very first moment I saw him in college.

Nothing happened back then, but she'd fantasized about him over

the years, wonder where he was and what he was doing. And about 30 years later, after they'd both

been married and divorced, she finally found him on social media and reached out. He remembered her.

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