I'm Laura Stasi, and this is Dating While Gray, the grown-up's guide to love, sex, and relationships.

Why can't we have these open discussions? Because, you know, there's nothing shameful about wanting to have sex or being sexually active.

Older men and older women have to accommodate the physiological changes of sexuality,

and that's an adjustment.

But if you make the adjustment, you can find tremendous pleasure.

We're exploring aging and intimacy with the help of two experts, a physician and a

journalist. On this episode, sex education. Sex. How did something that's supposed to be fun and exciting and pleasurable get so complicated in our older years?

It seems like there's a lot more to think about and talk about before actually, you know, doing it.

And it can be nerve-wracking, especially if we haven't had a new partner or any partner in a very

long time. What can we reasonably expect from our older bodies? Will our sexual histories come back

to haunt us? Are some things better left unsaid? Is spotaneity dead? So many questions. And I'm glad we have some help answering them.

I'm Dr. Jen Gunter. I'm an OB-GYN and host of the docu-series Jensplaining.

You remember Dr. Jen from Season 1 of the show. She's also the author of The Vagina Bible,

the vulva and the vagina separating the myth from the show. She's also the author of The Vagina Bible, The Vulva and the Vagina, separating

the myth from the medicine. She had so much good stuff to say when I first talked to her. It seemed

a shame not to share more of her insights. And we have another expert voice on sex for this episode.

Well, I'm Michael Castleman, a sexuality journalist for 46 years.

Author of several books about sexuality, my latest is called Sizzling Sex for Life, How to Maximize Erotic Pleasure at Any Age.

Dr. Jen and Michael will be weighing in as we explore sex and intimacy issues submitted by listeners.

I received an email from a 50-year-old woman who was in a sexless marriage for 11 years. And when I say sexless, I mean after the honeymoon, they did not have sex at all.

She got divorced and then she met someone and had really bad sex.

Quote, while my confidence level grows daily, it took a huge hit during marriage and the one sexual experience since.

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