Welcome back to the Man Talk Show. I am Connor Beaton. And today I want to talk about one of the main

things that I think many men come up against and bump up against when it comes to getting their

needs met in their relationship. It's a very simple thing, but it's very challenging thing.

So to begin, I want to talk about the concept of neglect.

One of the more insidious things, one of the more hidden aspects of neglect, right?

So say you grew up in a household where you were left alone for days on end or, you know,

your parents didn't spend a lot of time with you.

They were chronic workers or

they weren't really around very much or they were an addict or, you know, you were one of like 10

kids. And so you didn't actually get a lot of time with that parent. One of the challenges that

comes along with this is that we learn that our needs aren't that important, right?

So maybe you're a kid that starts to bring your needs to your parents and they aren't able to

meet those needs.

One of the insidious things about the nature of neglect is that it begins to teach you as a young

boy and as a young man that your needs aren't inherently important

or welcome within intimate relationships. And so I think one of the most untalked about,

unlooked at aspects of the nice guy and the nice guy archetype and nice guy syndrome is that

that man, that nice guy is often a man who

was a child who was a boy who was neglected in some way and the challenge with neglect is that

it becomes something that you carry on it becomes a legacy that you then on. So a lot of the men that I've worked with

that I've talked to over the years that have dealt with some form of neglect in their earlier lives.

And I think this is the thing that I should probably mention. Most of us, for most of us,

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