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We have two primary ways to regulate our feelings and emotions and establish a state of

it's called homeostasis, which is essentially just go back to normal, calm,

or healthy states of being.

To process any feeling or emotional reaction is one to talk about it.

Human beings literally co-regulate very, very well.

We're a social species, so when we find someone who's sympathetic, who listens well, who creates a safe

container and we get vulnerable and we disclose what we're feeling. We literally limbically

co-regulate. Limbically co-regulate simply means that my emotional state when I'm upset and I talk to you and you're calm, I will gravitate

to your state of being.

My body will literally start to breathe like your body. My

musculature contractions will release. Human beings naturally go to the state of other human beings. We are deeply

emotionally contagious. So when we get vulnerable and we're with someone who is in

a positive place or at least a serene state and we share about what we're feeling

then we naturally gravitate towards their physiological state.

We go from withdrawal, which is one of the two primary states,

to approach, which is a relaxed, open, broad and build state.

So that's all good.

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