The Murder of James Self: When Control Turns Deadly

Seeing Red A True Crime Podcast

Mark Randell & Bethan Trueman

True Crime

4.2 • 1.2K Ratings

🗓️ 25 February 2026

⏱️ 51 minutes

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When we talk about domestic abuse, there’s a narrative people expect. This case doesn’t fit it. In this week’s episode of Seeing Red, we examine the murder of James Self — a man killed by his female partner after what those close to them describe as a volatile and controlling relationship. We look at how abuse can look different when the victim is male. The warning signs that are often dismissed. The cultural blind spots that make it harder for men to be believed — or even to recognise what’s happening to them in the first place. Domestic abuse isn’t defined by gender. It’s defined by control, fear, and escalation.And when we fail to recognise that, people slip through the cracks. www.patreon.com/seeingredpodcast ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.buymeacoffee.com/seeingredtw⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.seeingredpodcast.co.uk⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Theme music arranged and composed by Holly-Jane Shears: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.soundcloud.com/DeadDogInBlackBag⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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2:20.1	everybody. Thank you for joining us. Welcome back for another episode. Woohoo. This week, we return to a question
2:27.9	that we have posed before on the show, one that sadly and frustratingly does not have an answer.
2:33.8	Why are men still feeling shame and stigma about being the victims of domestic abuse?
2:39.7	When we know that it absolutely does happen, it does not just happen to women.
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