The Most Common Fantasies (& How to Actually Try Them)

Sex With Emily

Health & Fitness, Sexuality

4.3 • 6.8K Ratings

🗓️ 23 June 2026

⏱️ 53 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, I'm breaking down the sexual fantasies you voted on most wanting to learn about: role play and scenario-based fantasies, power exchange, sensory play, and voyeurism and exhibitionism. I cover what each one actually means, why so many of us are drawn to them, how to bring them up with a partner, and the props and tools that can help you ease in. Whether you're totally new to exploring or just looking to deepen the conversation with your partner, this episode is your permission slip to get curious, communicate openly, and make sex feel playful again… because that's exactly what it's meant to be. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex With Emily 2:59 Most Popular Fantasies Revealed 4:03 Roleplay and Scenario Based Fantasies 8:41 BDSM Explained for Beginners 12:21 Tools and Techniques 17:11 Sensory Play and Temperature Play 18:58 Voyeurism vs Exhibitionism 20:21 Exploring Fantasies Without Pressure 22:44 Favorite Toys & Finding Local Communities 25:03 When Partners Have Different Fantasies 29:24 How to Try New Experiences Together 32:08 Are They Weird or Harmful? 36:24 Psychological Benefits 40:32 Exploring Fantasies While Single 42:03 Planning vs Spontaneity in Relationships 43:40 Kinks vs Fantasies Explained 46:49 Fantasy vs Fetish Differences Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	I am so excited to finally share this with you.
0:02.6	I am going on tour.
0:04.4	It is the best sex ever tour.
0:07.3	And I hope you'll join me.
0:09.0	And the show is all about you, the audience.
0:11.5	Every night, I'm going to be answering your questions, win prizes, and leave with secrets
0:17.3	to have the best sex ever.
0:19.7	Every night is different because the show is all about you.
0:23.5	So here's the dates, July 7th in Rosemont, Illinois at Zanies, then heading to Philadelphia on
0:29.0	August 5th, Nashville on September 29th, and Austin on October 7th. More cities to come.
0:36.2	Come with your partner, your friends fly solo. You'll leave with
0:39.4	practical tools. Plenty of laughs. Maybe some surprises. We'll definitely some surprises. Visit
0:45.4	sex with Emily.com slash events for tickets and tour information. I will see you there. Can't wait to
0:51.6	meet you. Sex is weird. Sex can be awkward and sometimes we laugh.
0:55.0	The thing about role-playing is that it's just, it can be as simple or as elaborate as you want.
1:00.0	But the goal is like you're changing up your persona.
1:03.0	You're not just the same person that shows up every time that you have sex.
1:07.0	It's not just like whips and chains. It's about trust.
1:10.0	It's about communication and
1:12.4	respecting each other. The stuff that might feel painful actually feels very pleasurable
1:16.9	in the moment. It also really helps with communication. You know, communication is lubrication.
1:25.0	Hey everyone, welcome to Sex with Emily.
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