Welcome back, everyone to the morning after I am online with someone. We are going to have a lot to connect on. So I'm excited. She's a Southern girl. She's a podcaster, fertility awareness advocate, and someone, honestly, who just keeps it real. So Becca Tobin is joining us today. Hello. Thanks for having me. Yes, welcome, welcome. I don't know if they told you

about this, but at the beginning of all of our episodes, we start with an It's a Lot segment. So,

what's a lot for you right now? Summer with children. It is like nothing I've experienced. My son is only three and a half. And like the quote school he goes to is a glorified expensive daycare. But still, it means that he's out of my house every day. And then he comes home to normally a nanny. My husband and I both work. I travel a lot. So we have so much support at home in Austin, but we do this stupid thing every July where we come to Atlanta where both of our families are living. And we like post up here. We take trips to and from, but we're really like in Atlanta. And God bless the boomer parents, but like they're not the way our grandparents were when it came to taking care of our children.

They want that part?

I mean, they're very helpful, but it's not the same where my parents used to just drop me at my grandparents' house, me and my sister, and leave for weeks at a time.

And we just would just like chill with my grandparents. Now I can't really leave my son with my dad by himself because my dad doesn't know what to do with the three and a half year old. Like it's bizarre. I mean, I feel that very much. I feel like when I was growing up, I was always with my grandmother Winnie. But I feel, my parents are like, we're busy.

We have friends. We have things to do. And I'm like, who's going to watch my children? Like, what do you mean? My dad is at Pilates right now. I kind of love that. He's getting his back right so he can help take care, you know? I mean, what's your son's name? Ford. Ford. Ford. Okay. That was, I'm obsessed with the name Ford for a boy.

And I had mentioned to Matthew, I was like, listen, if we have a boy, can we name him Ford Stafford?

And he was like, absolutely fucking not.

But I do.

I've always loved that name.

I feel like it's like a strong, I don't know, just a really good name. But maybe your dad is getting, you know, stretched out so you can be in the pool with more later or something. I mean, you know, they do their best. But the problem is actually it's all my fault for having children this late. Like my son was when I think, I mean, I think I'm about to be 40s. So my late 30s. And I mean, it's my fault. It's my own fault. My parents had kids at like 21. So, but, you know, my grandparents were, they were young. They were sprightly. Like, they could, they could hang. But, you know, and we're only with baby number one.

I don't even know what's going to happen with baby number two. I might bring on like a sister wife just to be absolutely supported in this. We, I talked about sister wise with my sister

because you're like, it sounds kind of nice. It doesn't sound horrible.

Sounds great. Yeah. But I, I'm with you with the grandparents.

And my dad always told me he was like, listen, he wasn't, he wasn't trying to force me to have kids.

But he was like, I'm going to be old.

Like so selfishly for J-pop scenario, like you need to have kids now.

Yeah.

Which now I understand because, you know, that's what happens.

People get old and they're less helpful.

And you're sitting in this, I was mentioning this beautiful room and this is at your parents' house, which is in Atlanta, correct?

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