You don't have to be a great looking guy, you don't have to have incredible abs.

If you make her feel secure, your wife will find you attractive.

And conversely, if you make her feel insecure, all the muscles or the motorcycles or the cool

tats in the world will not help.

Like if you don't make people feel secure to thrive around you, you're not being a keeper

of the garden, you're being the opposite.

You're actually the invader of the garden.

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So when I was in college, I went down to see my dad in Florida for a spring break.

Who was an airline pilot, Captain?

Yeah, divorced.

So I didn't know my dad real well, but he's like, hey, come down with a couple of buddies.

I don't know if I've ever told you this, but we were getting ready to go out one night.

And my dad says to me, I'll never forget this, real men get chicks.

That's what he said.

I mean, I was like, what's that mean?

He's like, you know, you need to go out and you need to find women.

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