The Man Behind Attachment Styles Explains Secure Love

We Need To Talk with Paul C. Brunson

FlightStory

Relationships, Society & Culture, Leisure

4.7 • 1.2K Ratings

🗓️ 23 April 2026

⏱️ 28 minutes

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Summary

What does secure love actually look like? Dr Amir Levine explores what it really means to build a relationship that feels safe, flexible and deeply connected. Amir goes beyond the labels of anxious, avoidant and secure to explain how security is created in everyday relationships. In the final part of this three-part series, Amir challenges one of the most debated ideas in modern relationships, shares why even secure people can shift depending on who they’re with, and reveals how a secure partner can help reshape the way we see the world. We’re Talking Attachment Styles with Dr Amir Levine (Part Three) Follow me here: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod⁠⁠ Take the We Need To Talk quiz to discover your attachment style and get personalised episode recommendations: ⁠⁠https://linkly.link/2g3t4⁠⁠ Support Amir here: Website: ⁠⁠https://linkly.link/2g2xk⁠⁠ My Attachment Topography Calculator: ⁠⁠https://linkly.link/2g2xl⁠⁠ Secure at Waterstones https://linkly.link/2g8vz Enter 'Secure26' for 25% off (00:00) Intro (01:43) Dr Amir Levine Breaks Down Why Relationships Don’t Need Boundaries (04:50) Can One Shift From a Secure Attachment to an Unsecure One? (07:08) Dr Amir Levine Describes His Childhood Environment (09:39) Saily Ad (10:48) How Did Dr Amir Levine's Upbringing Affect the Man He Is Today? (11:48) What Is Dr Amir's Attachment Style to the Different People in His Life? (14:12) What Is the Best Strategy as a Parent to Raise a Secure Child? (16:37) Most Memorable Conversation (18:33) Paul’s Takeaways Sponsored by: Saily - Download from the app store and use code WNTT at checkout for 15% off. For more details: https://saily.com/wntt ⛵ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Must remember, do not forget.
0:06.0	Remind me to bring photo ID.
0:10.0	Reminder, set.
0:12.0	Babe, can you make sure I don't forget my photo ID when I vote?
0:16.0	All right, love.
0:17.0	However you remember, you'll need photo ID to vote in the elections in England on the 7th of May.
0:22.3	Don't have ID. Apply for free voter ID today.
0:25.6	Find out more at electoralcommission.org.org.org.
0:28.3	Slashire ID.
0:30.2	Dr. Amir Levine, your book Secure.
0:33.2	You have said something that is going to drive relationship experts mad.
0:39.3	I can think about a couple of things.
0:41.3	Yeah, yeah.
0:42.3	That relationships don't need...
0:43.3	Oh, that one. Yes, I love that one.
0:46.3	That's big!
0:48.3	From an attachment perspective, I find that...
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