The Magnetic Entrance: Why Charisma Isn’t About Being Loud

The Art of Charm

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4.7 • 11K Ratings

🗓️ 28 August 2025

⏱️ 15 minutes

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What if your charisma started before you even spoke a word? In this episode, AJ and Johnny reveal how to make a magnetic entrance—one that commands attention, sparks curiosity, and creates an instant window of opportunity. Drawing on Princeton research showing impressions form in just a tenth of a second, they unpack why body language and micro-behaviors matter more than anything you say. You’ll learn the difference between the “nice guy entrance” that keeps you invisible and the deliberate, charismatic entrance that signals composure, awareness, and confidence. From posture and pauses to eye contact and subtle acknowledgments, AJ and Johnny show you how to turn heads the moment you walk through the door—and how to convert that attention into influence with what they call conversation radar. What to Listen For [00:00:00] The Princeton research that shatters the “7 second” first impression myth [00:02:00] The “nice guy entrance” and why it keeps you invisible [00:03:27] The charismatic entrance: posture, pause, and scanning the room [00:04:54] How nods, winks, and subtle acknowledgments spark curiosity [00:06:26] Why deliberate stillness and micro-pauses signal authority [00:07:44] How rushing through a door leaks anxiety and discomfort [00:09:01] Steve McQueen’s secret to always drawing attention on screen [00:12:01] Client story: Derek shifts from invisible engineer to magnetic connector [00:13:42] How to listen for identity markers and turn attention into influence A Word From Our Sponsors Tired of awkward handshakes and collecting business cards without building real connections? Dive into our Free Social Capital Networking Masterclass. Learn practical strategies to make your interactions meaningful and boost your confidence in any social situation. Sign up for free at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠theartofcharm.com/sc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and elevate your networking from awkward to awesome. Don’t miss out on a network of opportunities! Unleash the power of covert networking to infiltrate high-value circles and build a 7-figure network in just 90 days. Ready to start? Check out our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠CIA-proven guide⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to networking like a spy! Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince—where high-end essentials meet unbeatable prices. Upgrade your wardrobe today at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠quince.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Shopify makes it easy to start, scale, and succeed—whether you're launching a side hustle or building the next big brand. Sign up for your $1/month trial at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shopify.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Need to hire top talent—fast? Skip the waiting game and get more qualified applicants with Indeed. Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Indeed.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mintmobile.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Stop needlessly overpaying for car insurance. Before you renew your policy, do yourself a favor—download the Jerry app or head to ⁠⁠JERRY.com/charm ⁠⁠ Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.rula.com/charm ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Curious about your influence level? Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠theartofcharm.com/influence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Check in with AJ and Johnny! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AJ on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Johnny on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Art of Charm on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Most people think it takes seven seconds to make a first impression, but that's actually a myth.
0:05.2	The reality, Princeton researchers found we form impressions in as little as a tenth of a second,
0:10.8	faster than a blink. And here's the kicker. Body language drives those snap judgments more than
0:16.5	anything you say, which means charisma doesn't start with words. It actually starts the moment
0:22.3	you walk through the door.
0:31.7	It's funny that you mention Blink because Malcolm Gladwell's book discusses this a bit. And I'm referring to the idea that we
0:41.5	see certain things and we are flooded with thoughts about those things. Those thoughts that
0:48.8	flood us are gained from years and years of experience of dealing.
0:56.5	And when it comes to this, with dealing with people.
0:59.8	And that's why stereotypes, as much as a lot of people hate them or they get in the way,
1:06.0	they're also incredibly useful because it gives us a tool to navigate the social world. And what we want to
1:14.2	talk about today is doing a couple of things that ignites curiosity and getting other people's
1:24.0	attention so that we create a moment or window of opportunity for ourselves
1:29.6	to really create impact because people don't remember a good conversation.
1:35.7	Good conversation is accommodating.
1:37.5	It fills space.
1:38.9	Creating impact is magnetism.
1:41.1	That's being memorable.
1:42.9	The nice guy entrance first, the charismatic guy entrance is justism. That's being memorable. The nice guy entrance first, the charismatic guy entrance,
1:46.3	is just one idea of how a few simple things gather attention, create interest, and
1:57.0	gives you that window of opportunity. So when you walk into a room, the nice guy, he walks in.
2:05.1	You know, nowadays he's probably, you know, he just put his phone away.
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