Hi, my name is Ruby, and I'm Dr. Jennifer Finlace and Fife's assistant, and you're listening to the Dr Finlason Fife podcast Archive.

The podcast that you'll be listening to today is entitled The Lower Desire Wife, originally produced and published by

Corey Allen from the sexy marriage radio. Thank you for being here and we hope

you enjoy this episode.

Well joining me for this episode of Sex and Marriage Radio is Dr. Jennifer Finlinson Fife,

who is a woman I've come across that's a colleague because she is into the Schnarsh

world just like I am and if you've been a part of Sex and Marriage Radio Nation any

length of time you've probably heard me reference differentiation or crucible or

something that Schnarsh does because you know I'm a fan and I like his work

and try to use his work in a lot of ways always giving him

respect and Jennifer's in the same tribe as me I guess you could say but she also has some some fantastic takes that are worth

exploring when you're talking about just some of the dynamics that play out in

marriage and so Jennifer thank you so much for joining the

show today. Thanks for having me. And so Jennifer I think let's just to start

diving right in when you're talking about the dynamics of marriage and how we believe that sex

in marriage is a sacred blessed thing by God but it's also one of those things that man it can be so cumbersome and so

troublesome because when you first were meeting it was easy maybe as far as the

as far as the desire goes. sex maybe wasn't easy but the desire

the desire probably was and then as you get into it all sudden it's not and so how do how do you how do you enter into that that arena with people?

Well first I think you know it's probably good to just normalize that shift because I think a lot of good to just normalize that shift because I think a lot of people take that as a kind of pathology somehow of their marriage or of their who they chose as opposed to a reality that comes out of what are the fundamental dynamics of desire.

And so when you're in the falling in love stage, all the novelty the uncertainty the you know the ways that your

beloved expands your sense of self right because now this person that you really think is attractive and you value

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