The Lie We Tell Men About Strength

The Angry Therapist Podcast

John Kim

Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.6 • 1.1K Ratings

🗓️ 11 August 2025

⏱️ 26 minutes

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In this episode, licensed therapist John Kim unpacks the father wound - how it silently shapes our self-worth, relationships, and ideas of masculinity. Through raw personal stories and practical, street-level insights, he explores what it means to grow up with a “ghost father” and how both men and women can begin to heal. You’ll learn: Why the father wound exists even if your dad was “there” How it shows up differently for men and women Why emotional absence can leave deeper scars than physical absence How it becomes a blueprint for love, power, and identity Practical ways to reparent yourself and break the cycle Join the conversation! Do you think you have a father wound? How has it shown up in your relationships or self-image? Share your story with us. Like this episode? Please LIKE & FOLLOW for more unfiltered conversations on relationships, self-worth, and the work of healing. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose,⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:30.0	Then give each other things that no one else can.
0:34.4	Because of our definitions of man from society
0:38.8	a lot of men think that we need to
0:41.6	once we have our family that we need to loan woof it
0:45.4	we need to go on our journey by ourselves
0:47.8	and we don't need other men we don't need anyone
0:49.8	and society defines that as being a man but it's not true
0:53.5	it's hard for men to reach out to other men and talk about real shit, right?
0:58.6	So a lot of men do life alone and they're lonely.
1:02.1	So they try to just harden up and man up, and they don't need other men, but that's not true.
1:07.9	And when it comes to father wounds, we are giving ourselves corrective experiences.
1:16.7	I'm John Kim, a licensed therapist who used to be a miserable fuck
1:20.3	before going on a hero's journey and turning expired relationships into revelations.
1:25.1	I use my story to help others come with you instead of at you,
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